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writes:Okay, so heres the deal. My girlfriend and i have been together for nearly five months. When we first starting going out, we talked about sex and stuff like that. She usually brought it up, saying how horrible it was that people our age were having sex and that no ones a virgin anymore. She mentioned saving it until marriage or atleast college. I had a completely different view on this but i didn't give her my opinion. What kind of seventeen year old guy doesn't want to get in his girlfriends pants? So recently this has been driving me crazy! Im a virgin too but we get extremely horny sometimes when we're together. We've never done anything but make out but i feel like she wants more when we're together, and i obviously too do. I don't know what to do. If i just go for it i would feel like im violating her personal space..her views on sex were clearly stated. And shes not the type of girl where i can just reach my hand in her pants, shes really straight edge. Having sex with her and making out are our only two options, there aren't any in between stages. Anyways, how can i get her to take it to this stage? Randomly "talking about it" sounds awkward. It's really driving me crazy, with any other girl this wouldn't be a problem. Five months is a long time for a highschool relationship, i shouldn't be going through this!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Oooh, I was this girl in high school. I didn't want to go further than second base, and I didn't. I had lots of boyfriends who I probably sexually frustrated the bejesus out of, but I didn't even think twice about it. Sex was just not an option for me. I wasn't waiting for marriage or preaching about virginity, but I knew I was waiting for something more special than the boyfriend that was groping me at the time. And finally, I dated the right guy and knew that he was right for me... I just knew. So we slept together after 2 and a half months (I was 19), and got married 4 and a half years later. My judgment, I guess, is AWESOME.
What I am saying is that she's put her boundaries out there and you have to make a decision. You can love her and accept her body's rules, or you can just move on to someone who is more on your page about sex. There are plenty of girls who will be open about a sexual relationship. But your girlfriend is not one of them. She will know when she's ready. Could be in a few months, could be in a few years, could be until marriage... but she's made herself clear to you and you have been warned that you're in for a wait.
You can always talk to her and see what she has to say now, but I have a feeling that she's thinking with her head and not her lady bits and protecting herself the way she feels best. If you really love her and enjoy her company, embrace the rules. If you are just more interested in something else, look elsewehere! Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): I think your best option would be to talk to her about it. I know it might seem awkward at the time, but you can't exactly figure out what's going through her head unless you discuss it. I'm a girl who would've never considered having sex a couple of months ago and as the months go by I consider it more and more. If she's as shy about sex as it seems she might be waiting for you to bring it up so she can talk about it. If you do talk about it and she's not ready then don't force her or pressure her into it. That is when you have to decide if you care about her enough to stay with her or go your seperate ways and find somebody willing to give you what you need sexually.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 You are going through a tough time because you are young and you want a good old-fashioned fuck. But you have to understand that this girl has different beliefs to you and you have no right to pressure her into anything. It might be best if you consider dating a different girl. One who is less frigid. Or should I say, more openminded in her beliefs.
I don't think the whole world is going to come to an end just because this girl won't get into bed with you.
Just be appreciative of what you've already got. Good luck with the whole thing. That's the best advice I can give.
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