A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hey well i've been seretly inlove with my best male friend for about a yr and i'm starting to get over him but to "help" i was messing about with this guy i met for the last few mnths and i know he's just using me but i'm really just using him so i'm not too bothered, (i can't feel attached to any1 else as i was so besotted with my best friend) anyhow this has developed into a regular booty call thing i was wondering whether you think i should continue this as we've no real interest in each other and i'm getting over my friend. Should i enjoy this guys physical attention or cut loose and look for something with more meaning?thanksps i know its ultimately up to me just interested in opinion, my friends can't get over the fact he's admitted he's using me but i don't feel he's being unfair as we really only meet up to have sex x
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 Yes, ultimately the choice for maintaining the "booty call" is completely up to you. If you are still getting something out of it (other than an "aid" in getting your mind off the other guy), then there's probably no real harm in continuing it.
...on the other hand, I would think that a constant booty call would thicken your skin for when the real thing comes along. I guess I'm hinting at the fact that you might start disassociating romance and sex as an all-inclusive event in a dedicated relationship, which is probably opposite of the general impression. Granted, there are MANY people out there that can go screw around, get up the next morning and give it no further thought than playing billiards last night. I'm just saying that you might want to consider casting the booty call aside and deal with the real emotions that life deals out rather than mask it in an emotionally detached sexual rendezvous.
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