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anonymous
writes:Well 2 years ago i fell head over heels for a girl i know. She was in a relationship but i am reasonably sure had i not been so inept in my attempted courting of her she would have left him for me.I was alot younger and less experinced and acted like a love sick puppy for the most part. Anyway we were good friends and then my stupidity in allowing my feelings to first develop for her and then become obvious put a large strain on our friendship and when we went off to different Uni's we drifted apart. At Uni after being a miserable bugger for monthes and pining over my "lost love" I pulled myself together kicked myself in the ass and bucked up and started going out with a great girl who's funny and pretty and we get on great.A year into my relationship with my girlfriend and even though i dont want too, I still think about the other girl, I dream about her quite often and she still makes my stomach tie in knots when i think about her or see her pics on facebook (i dont go on her page anymore but sometimes they come up). I have never felt the way I felt about her for any other girl. And although i pretty sure i love my girlfriend I cannot say that if the other girl turned up tomorrow and said lets be together I would know what I would do. I cant believe that after a year and a half with barely any contact with this girl and with me being in a great relationship she can still have such a large effect on me.Anyone have any suggestions about getting rid of this feeling or whether i should end things with my girlfriend and try and get back in touch with the other girl. Or is this wondering about lost loves normal for people in a relationship. Any help would be appreciated
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reader, Lavendre  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 Dear im am truly sorry to hear about your situation as i was in one like that myself though im a girl things might be a little different but hear is my story:
When i was 14 i met this guy i loved him to the end, i would do anything for this guy, anything i saved and bought him things and he never even remembered my birthday. Finally he ended our relationship i begged him to stay but he went anyway and months after i would still call his phone until one day he made it clear that he didnt love me from the start and wanted to end it right away but didnt because i was giving him stuff. Im ugly because people actually call me black beauty my breast size is 34b my waist is 24" and hips are 38" around i couldnt figure out why he didnt want me. I never got over him and until this day im afraid of being hurt.
So in my eyes your strong, you have vitality, you are trying hard to forget about this girl. So guess what your girlfriend is nice and pretty do everything you can to stay in love with her remember that the other girl has obviously forgotten you try and move on with your new love. Do not think about her and just try to forget. Dont be like me hun!! Cause im sad!!
GOOD LUCK
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