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writes:Hello everyone. I need some advice. My friend has been trying to get pregnant since August. she's 22 in a stable relationship (engaged) and is financially stable. Both she and her boyfriend even purchased a house instead of planning a large fancy wedding. The thing is she always comes to me about not bein g able to get preg.I am always there for her but I'm running plumb out of reasons because she wants a different answer. She's already checked with her doctor she and her boyfriend are both heathy sexually and phsically. I told her it takes time. I think she really just wants to kno how long before she should worry if it doesnt happen. I told her if it doesnt happen in a year, go back to the doctor. The only answers I can come up with are maybe they are having too much sex and his sperm count is low, or that it requires time, sometimes ppl cant get preg over night. Any ideas or answers for her would be great! I'd like to be able to help her thanks so much
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reader, snowbear  +, writes (3 December 2008):
Hi... Having had this problem i can understand how your friend feels. Relaxing is the most important thing they can do for themselves since the guy worries about his girl this puts pressure on the relationship. Relaxing is also difficult when all you can think of is being pregnant. Would it help if she concentrated on herself and maybe have a massage or some other holistic therapy like reflexology. It can take up to 2 yrs before getting pregnant. If she is so keen to have a baby would she consider short term fostering of babies. It may also help relieve pressure in this area. Good Luck.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Since your friend and her BF have been to a doctor, then I'm sure they're aware that there are times in her cycle where she's got "the best odds" of getting pregnant. If she isn't leveraging those times, then maybe she should... but I have a better idea... tell her to STOP TRYING SO HARD! I can't explain it, but the minute that she just relaxes and lets everything happen the way that it should, she shouldn't worry about it... if anything, she's probably stressed herself out so much that she's too tense...
Best advise? Have fun, enjoy the process and stop worrying about it... the minute she does, I think she'll be surprised...
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