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writes:Hello. I have an issue. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while and we very mych love each other. We are sexually active and have been for a month or two. Now I'm sure you understand that two people in love like to be alone every now and then. The only problem is, we both live at home with parents. She lives with her mother, father, and 2 year old sister. I live with a friend, his mother, his father, his grandpa, and his teenage brother. Her parents are very controlling and, even though she is 18, don't want her to be alone with me.....ever! They will do anything possible to make sure we are not alone enough to have sex at their house (and it's kinda small, and she doesn't have a bedroom door). We could make love when they're not home, but the problem there is, her dad works, yes, but her mom has no life whatsoever. She doesn't drive, has no car, and takes care of her baby sister. When she does leave, she makes sure she's back before I come over. At my house, they're a little more leaniant, but the problem is, since there are so many people, we can never be totally alone, and she doesn't like to do too much if there's anyone else in the house, even if I do have a bedroom door. We are also both broke and without licenses, so we can't really go anywhere else in order to be alone. So is there any way to convince her parents to be more open? Or perhaps to convince her to be a little more secure in the fact that nobody would barge in on us at my house if my door is closed, so we can do more? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 November 2011):
 Job + $$ = car = your own place to have sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): I had a similar(ish) situation to you, except my boyfriend and I are long-distance. I'm 19, he's 21. And I was so desperate to see him, I found myself a job (against several seemingly insurmountable odds) so we could go away together every 2 or 3 months for a couple of nights. With dedication, you can find a way. But don't expect to get anywhere with your respective families - after all, their houses, their rules! Good luck and take care :)
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (26 November 2011):
 You should take a screen shot of this thread, save it in a time capsule and pull it out again when you're 40 years old and have a teenage daughter of your own.
What you're trying to do is extremely disrespectful to both families. The fact that neither of you can afford a hotel means the people you live with are putting a roof over your heads and food in your bellies for free. You would repay that generosity by having sex with your girlfriend in their homes? And in your case the family you live with has no obligation to you. You're staying there because you aren't getting on with your own family. Am I right?
Whether her mother has a life or not is really none of your business. She may like things the way they are. Why should she alter her schedule and have to leave her own home just to accomodate your sexual appetites?
You're priority should be in securing jobs for yourselves instead of trying to weasel opportunities for sex.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 November 2011):
You risk being walked in on if you do it while people are home. Also, it's rude to do it in your friend's parent's home (who's letting you stay there rent-free)..especially when they're home. No one wants to hear sex noises. The only time to do it, is when the houses are vacant.
I suggest you two obtain jobs, start saving for a car, and learn how to drive. At 18-21 (legally an adult), you should already know how to drive (or be learning) and certainly already have a job.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (25 November 2011):
 Hmmmm, the only thing i can suggest is saving up for a motel room for the night.
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