A
male
age
41-50,
*oynxdoor
writes:I've been into a relationship and it was 5yrs ago and until now i'm still being hunted by my past. I was dumped by my ex-girlfriend for another guy which didn't even last for a year. we're together for almost 5years and i did nothing but to love her. my only mistakes was by loving her so much that i was already over protected to her. I tried to fix things but it was to late for she just fall out of love with our relationship and was seeing another guy while she was on internship/affiliation during university. Our gap is 5years and she took same course as mine and i know how tempting it was at the time of internship. to cut it short, she dumped me before the internship was over. I tried to win her back but she doesn't want it anymore so i just gave up and set her free. now it's 5yrs already and still i can't get her out of my mined. i'm in good situation but i can tell by myself that i still have a feelings for her. I even move abroad and it does help much but upto now i still can't find my own love. maybe i'm so scared or just couldn't love someone. Any advice will be appreciated.
View related questions:
ex girlfriend, my ex, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2011): well guys i dumped my gf 2 years back just because i came to knew that she had some relations wid a very good friend of mine , although she had em before she met me.....as long as she was wid me she was totally wid me......but her past relations wid my best friend , dating wid 2 other guys i know and a date wid a collegue of mine during a period of our relationship when v were angry wid each other...........all dez things made me clar dat if i marry her,,,, i will not b able 2 forget her past and maybe dat will destroy our relation... so if im not gonna marry her... i shud free her life. and i broke up wid her........but even after 2 years her every style, her way of expressing her joy just breaks me down.........and i control my emotions...............maybe dats how life is.......thanks 4 hearing me and bearing my story out
A
reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): My friend, I am feeling the same way from last 5 years. I keep distance from a girl even she is hitting on me. I would say you are way lucky than me; My girlfriend dumped me for my twin brother and it did not even last six months, but i still love her.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): OneSoul- To tell the true, im in that relationship right now..at times I really want her to come back too me, because she making a big mistake, but then she told me that the other guy is her type. Even tho 2 year n 2 months pass, well she was my everything at frist, and everything I did with. To tell you, i did try to move away from where i live, it work for awhile, but then something keep making me drag myself to her again. Love is strong when it come to the one you put so much time in, but then you have to remember that there is someone out there that is feeling the same way as you're too. So you have to be strong and build your love and learn from the mistake that you went throught. As for me right now..im in love with someone who told me that she will not want too see me in that postion. It's been 1 year and 1 month for us now...but like the other guy say..you still think about the frist love. Just remember that you have to move on no matter what. Oh yea, if u did try to fight back and get her back with all your heart, and she still dont see what your coming from. Thats a sign to move on and walk away. we're human being, we only live once, so make sure you tell yourself that you have to love yourself frist before making the frist step in this world..so remember your not alone..
...............................
A
male
reader, Onesoul  +, writes (18 February 2009):
OneSoul- To tell the true, im in that relationship right now..at times I really want her to come back too me, because she making a big mistake, but then she told me that the other guy is her type. Even tho 2 year n 2 months pass, well she was my everything at first, and everything I did with. To tell you, i did try to move away from where i live, it work for awhile, but then something keep making me drag myself to her again. Love is strong when it come to the one you put so much time in, but then you have to remember that there is someone out there that is feeling the same way as you're too. So you have to be strong and build your love and learn from the mistake that you went throught. As for me right now..im in love with someone who told me that she will not want too see me in that postion. It's been 1 year and 1 month for us now...but like the other guy say..you still think about the frist love. Just remember that you have to move on no matter what. Oh yea, if u did try to fight back and get her back with all your heart, and she still dont see what your coming from. Thats a sign to move on and walk away. we're human being, we only live once, so make sure you tell yourself that you have to love yourself frist before making the frist step in this world..so remember your not alone..
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): I too know what you are feeling. The only difference being that my realationship was ended because of ex's controling and closed minded mother. Also because my ex never really loved me. She was my 1st love and my 1st everything. From the beginning she had been lying to me yet i closed my eyes.
The only advice i could give is give yourself a chance at finding someone else.You say you haven't found anyone yet,is it because you don't want to, or because you haven't really set your heart to it?
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): I am in the same boat. Can i ask, was this your first real girlfreind?
Mine was a true case of "first love". We wwent out in collegage for 2 years and were nearly engadged. Well secretly and un-officially we were, but due to my strict mother who at the time, I allowed to control my life, we weren't.
We split up at the end of college for reasons i wont discuss now.
Its been about 14 years now. I've been married for 11 of those years, and have kids now too.
My new life is great and I love my family, but I can tell you the feelings for that "first love" never die.
I dont know what adivce to give. I often dream that I bump into my ex and dont know what to say, as we are both married but I want to tell her how i feel. The dream always ends un-resolved.
Like i said. I dont know how to advise you, but what I am trying to do is not fight it but realise that just liek anything good in life, i hold fond memories and I always will.
Our memories of The past are like a photograph. It EXISTS because its a moment in life that is worth keeping. But its just a photo. It can't help you now. You can't change it. YOu cant use it, except to look at and remember.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): my friend ,
dont be worry. You know girls are like this. they always looks for better option. keep your nerve cool. i have that kind of experience . even if i cut a worse result in my Higher secondary exam. she know it but she didnt came back.
please think may be she is not suitable for you.
...............................
A
male
reader, Arkiteck +, writes (26 February 2008):
Kay Kay, What are you talking about? Did you read this man's story. Where did he do any of the breaking up? I completely understand where he's coming from and don't think he did anything wrong. I'm fearful that i'm going to be in the same situation down the road because of my recent break up. Although I don't have any advice for him aside from stay strong, I would tell him not to listen to you. Kay Kay obviously didn't understand what he wrote and is therefore providing bogus advice.
...............................
|
