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female
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30-35,
*hanuna
writes:three years ago this guy proposed me,i was soo sincere and loyal to him,im very confused with his attitude,i loved him for almost 4 years,i went so down and deep for this relationship and even met many failures in my life,sometimes he loves me a lot like i'm his world and sometimes he avoids me,he don't answer my calls and my messages,this situation keeps on going and he even wont talk to me for 3months,i really go mad and sick,i really love him a lot,our both family knows about this relationship and they are ok with it,just recently i lose my head and i called him and shouted at him,i cried alot because of his attitude,and he told me that he cant forget his ex-gf,both of them had done sex together,she dumped him 3 years ago and once he called her she said that she is happy with her life,im pretty sure that she slept with many guys,recently me and he had a great romance and i lost my virginity to him,i gave him everything,and now he says that he cant forget his ex-gf and that's y he avoids me,it seem he cant pretend to love me,i feel pain and got hurt badly,he ask me to leave him alone,and i said okay lets both of us just break out and don't ever come to me again,but he begging for second chance,he said he will definitely change and he wants me to wait for him,he don't want me to find some other guy..i already wasted my time waiting for him for years..i don't get a true love,he is just like 50/50 with me..I'm soo heartbroken..what should i do?I'm confused..
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): A couple of unfortunate lessons here.
1. Getting involved sexually.
2. Refer to 1...Getting involved with a guy you really do not know.
Now this guy sounds like a bit of a douche because he's just appealing to whatever woman in his world he feels he can connect with and you on the other hand are influenced by the fact that you had sex with this guy and it was with him that you lost your virginity. So your mental processes want you to make sense of that and go back to being with him.
No better time than the present to start to think rationally and realize this guy (and probably you for that matter) are not yet mature enough to be in a relationship. Don't fall for his advances unless you have really thought things through and don't go make a second mistake just because you made the first mistake.
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