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*razy-Candice
writes:since I started having sex Ive always been into some wierd fetishes; like facials, anal, smoking fetish, and especially- BDSM. I enjoy pain during sex and many other 'strange' things.... I won't go into details.... but all the guys I end up shagging are so boring in bed and don't do anything out of the ordinary. Ive even had guys say stuff like ''what the hell are you doing??'' when i do something that shocks them :(I dont wanna wind up with someone i'm not attracted to; just to fill out my stange sex desires. I'm really into blood and some gore, lots of crazy stuff, and bondage, one of my exes was slightly like me but he couldnt get it up so we only had sex a few times anyway and it sucked. loli dunno what I'm gonna do I'm bored of just seeing these things in porn. I'm not in a rush but i just feel like I'll never find the right men
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 Since it wasn't suggested, I just toss this into the ring...
Have you created a dating profile on alt.com or bondage.com? It seems that either one of those might hook you up into the local scene... just a suggestion (besides the club/group scene).
Good luck...
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Hi,
yep springing it on a guy is probably not the best way to go! :)
But good on you for being adventurous and open about your sexual preferences. Personally I like things without pain and it would make me uncomfortable to see my girl in pain while making love. But that's me and you are you.
My suggestion is as the other's say , bring it out in the open when you are looking for a guy, but be careful watch out for the pyschos!
Have your tried clubs and groups which are into this thing?
I understand there are heaps of them out there - not sure where but a mate of mine is into the gay bondage scene and never lacks for stories of his exploits!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Glad to be of help.
Yea, I imagine that is scary for a guy to be like 'woa, what the hell is she doing!?' when you put a new move on him. :D Brings back memories.
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reader, Crazy-Candice +, writes (12 February 2008):
Crazy-Candice is verified as being by the original poster of the question thats true I never discussed any of these things properly with guys,,,, i suppose i shouldnt just spring up on them when they least expect it!!!
these are great answers. thanks alot guys! =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): You might ask them something like 'what's your fantasy? do you ever wish you could do something to a girl?' you know? There's nothing wrong with being into those things as long as there's a line drawn, and you explain exactly what you're NOT into. Wanting to be dominated is natural.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (9 February 2008):
 Yeah you need to just talk to your future boyfriends about your fetishes so they know that you like the stuff. Becuase guys like me do not want to do something wierd like that in fear that you may not like what we want to do and may get mad about it.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (9 February 2008):
 I think most guys are reluctant to do anything in bed that might be viewed as bizarre . . . unless they're given the green light. When you're dating someone you need to bring up the subject of your fetishes and see what happens. If the guy is receptive to your desires, you can take it from there.
Good luck.
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