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writes:Theres this guy that goes to my college, i see him around sometimes. well about once and we said hi.We've been speaking on msn for like 5 months though, and we are always chatting and getting on well. He flirts sometimes, not lots but a little :)It has pasted my mind quite alot before of him in the 'boyfriend' way , thinking id like to get to knwo him in person but i never thought he'd seriously like me. I dont like him lots though, it was just in my mind, like playing on it so i felt abit better about myself that a guy might like me and that it'd be nice to have a boyfriend.But today out the blue he said he would liek to see me out and about, and myabe we can sometimes soon?i was like aw yeah sure.But after i was like :| i really dont know if i like him.Im still kind of hung up on this guy who lives round the corner, it was like 6 months ago that we was seeing each other and it ended up ona bad note, but i forgave him and now were friends.This guy makes me so happy even after everything, we get on so well, and theres proper chemsitry there. :(Maybe this adds to the fact why i dont liek thsi other guy, but i met a guy at a festival a month ago and there was a connection between us and i liked him. so its pretty obvisous i can like other guys.Maybe its just not going to feel right becuase we've basically meet over msn, not very romantic or chmesitry-ish.I dont want to lead him on but i dont feel liek i liek him, and if i get to know him he might think something with happen. Id liek to get to knwo him as a friend first but if your meeting up with somoen and going to the cinema. Its like your dating :(so stressed, i want to meet somone that makes me feel liek the guy round the corner or the one at leeds
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (21 October 2009):
 Theres nothing wrong with going to the cinema with him, or anything like that, just dont act couply until your sure you like him, i.e no kissing or cuddling, because thats gonna lead him on.
Ok, a few months ago I was pretty much in your situation, give or take a few details.
Anyway I hung out with the new guy, but made it clear I wasnt interessted. The guy I was mad about was not very nice to me, and our relationship got worse and worse until finaly we broke things off. I was so upset and spend summer pretty much thinking about him. But at the same time I was spending time with the new guy, and now im mad about him, but I dont think hes as keen anymore. If only id gone for him when I could!
Basically everyone wants what they cant have. So right now your gonna be focused on the one thing you cant have, instead of what you could get easy.
Try and get over this other guy, forget him! Then spend some time with the new one. If its not to be then so be it, but at least you know. Just dont wait too long!
:)
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reader, PrincessSmithee +, writes (20 October 2009):
PrincessSmithee is verified as being by the original poster of the question hes acting really flirty now though and i feel really mean becuase im obvlisey not feeling it as much as him.
Ive never had a boyfriend only people that have messed me around, and i dont want to let a nice guy slip past.
But i had so much chemsitry with the last guy i was with, and its patheic but i still like him even after 6/7 months. Im over him its just that we still talk and we get on so well.
I feel like such a nasty person i dont want to lead him on, but hes acting all flirty and he will probably ask me to go cinema soon and i dont want to fate him. i jsut like to eb friends atleast before i date anyone
What should i say to him?
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (20 October 2009):
Well you dont have to go in a serious relationship, you can date him for a while and see if you get along, and prehaps you'll forget about this other guy :)
Just dont string him along if it wont happen!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2009):
You don't like this guy enough and you've identified that. All you can do is make sure that you see him as nothing else than a good friend. Focus on yourself and what you really want instead. When you're ready, you'll find a guy who will make you feel like the one around the corner, perhaps even better. Good luck.
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