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writes:Hey there everyone! So... I was in a 5-yr-relationship with this guy and we used to have a quite a lot of anal sex. I didn't really like it, but he loved it so I tried to make him happy. Since we broke up I decided I'd never do anal just to make somebody happy because I do not like it, so I'm done with that. Now I am about to get married to this awesome awesome man and he never asked me for anal because he doesn't like it which is good. Do you think he can tell I've had anal before by looking at my butt-hole when we have sex doggy-style? I wouldn't want him to notice I've engaged in such an activity before... not that he would mind, it's just that I'd find it humiliating, that's all. Thank you!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (1 August 2012):
 Maybe. I'm not sure how often you engaged in it over those years, but that muscle can get stretched out and begin to look more "open" than normal. Perhaps though it shrinks back over time. But I agree with chigirl, get a mirror and take a good look back there, then you'll know for sure.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 August 2012):
 I don't think so, but WHY do you intend on lying about it? IF this is a guy you want to marry.
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (31 July 2012):
 No he won't be able to tell, and if i were you I'd keep your past in the past, there's no need to tell him about it, just carry on the Way you are and don't worry
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reader, person12345 +, writes (31 July 2012):
 Not unless you injured yourself (which would be immediately apparent by a need to wear diapers). He can't tell. But why would it matter anyways? As long as you explained it's something that you hate/your ex pressured you into doing and will not do again, it shouldn't be a problem.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 No. Just take a look at your own butt-hole in the mirror and see if it looks normal.
If you can hold in poop then your anal muscles are still functioning and your hole will look normal as well.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (31 July 2012):
You are fine OP, there is no way to tell that you have done that in the past by looking at your anus. There is telltale inflammation and swelling in some cases, but that is only visible for a few hours or perhaps a few days at most.
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2012): I doubt it but it is possible if there was damage done or if it has an unnatural gape. It can be quite obvious a porn star has done a lot of anal work for example.
Why would you find it humiliating? He wouldn't care, it's not like it's a bad thing at all.
Don't worry about it OP because it really doesn't matter.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (31 July 2012):
 I highly doubt it.
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