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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: I’ve liked this guy for ages but he has a gf so I backed off. We have late night conversations and are fairly close. He gets jealous when I am with other boys. I went on holiday for two weeks didn't see this lad except the odd text which he would initiate as I never send first texts or phone calls. He would ask where on holiday I was for he wanted to see me. What I was doing. General. then one night same questions I said I was stargazing with my boy (boy being my brother) he got wound up and thought I was with someone when I said I was only pulling his leg he said stop winding me up , do you like me or not? I was stunned, we talked for a while I didn't give a straight answer then he rang me saying he missed me and wanted to see me. He was wasted I said because of this anything he says doesn't mean a lot to me and will change his mind in the morning. He said he was being truthful in being drunk and always remembers what he says and does. He kept asking I said you have a gf, he said but what if I didn't? Pretend I don't do you like me? I said I guess, yes. He said he thought I was epic, funny, unpredictable and good for conversation sarcastic that I am not like other girls. He said he would have to make a note so he definitely knows that I like him. He made a thing about wanting to see me I told him when I was free off holiday; he didn't come and see me and is now on holiday himself. But said he really wants to see me when he gets back. I realise this is long but I am very confused about his behaviour. Opinions please? Can you say things drunk and mean them? If so why hasn't he left his gf yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): The thing with drinking is, it allows people to be more in touch with their emotions and feelings (my experience), so i would say he was probably telling you the truth when he said he misses you.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 If you like this lad, then give him the ultimatum; Either he ditches the girlfriend to be with you in a more permanent arrangement, or he needs to quit calling, texting and acting pissed off when you're with someone else. WTF?....He's either in or he's out. Good luck. I hope he picks you, you seem like you two would click.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Any boy/man who has a girlfriend whom he is telling that he is faithful to, while conversing, flirting, and baiting another woman to guage her sexual interest, is a dishonest, ego driven, self centered jerk. Remember, that however he is treating current girlfriend will be what is coming your way in the end.
He is playing with your mind and your emotions and is a complete waste of your time, unless of course you base your self worth and self esteem on the attentions of some adolescent preening that this guy is playing you with.
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