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writes:Is it possible to rekindle a friendship in a similar fashion one might try to rekindle a romantic relationship? Or are the two inherently different enough that the same approach can't be used in both cases. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Unless something terrible happened, I believe it would be a lot easier to rekindle a friendship than to rekindle a romance. But you really have to feel like rekindling. The friendship grew cold for a reason, and sometimes you find there are not enough good reasons to rekindle it. And, if the friend had, say, ten saving graces and one really bad flaw, bu now the saving graces are gone (it happens), the the flaw is magnificated.
If you can rekindle the friendship, go for it.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 U can rekindle it in the sense of "hey lets go out for a drink and a chat to catch up". But when ur rekindling an old romance, its generally just for a one-nighter, or youre not dating anyone at the moment and are feeling rather lonely and ur still friends with him so why not, and u dumped him but u realized he was the best u ever had so time to get him back. Old romances and friendships died for a reason. Friends and women will come and go. So yes u can rekindle it in the same fashion, it just depends if the other party is going to give it a go or not.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (5 August 2010):
 hey :)
well, firstly, friendships and romantic relationships are different so I doubt the "same approach" can be used to re-kindle both!
You have to remember the reason you were friends with this person and also why you maybe drifted apart. Be sure you really want to get in touch with this person again. If you want to rekindle the friendship between you, maybe invite that person to a gathering of mutual friends and get talking again? You must know this person at least a little, having been friends, so you are aware of any common intrests to use as a conversation starter.
If you haven't spoken in a long time and this seems a bit much, why not just drop a friendly e-mail asking if they want to catch up over coffee sometime? or text them? or give them a call? There are a million ways to stay in touch with people now, take advantage of these!
hope this helps,
xxx
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