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writes:Is it possible to remain friends with an ex, and can rekindled relationships actually work? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Remaining friends is not the problem; if you have both accepted that it is not working and there is no unresolved issues; yes, you can be friends; but if deep inside either of you are hoping for more, or to rekindle the relationship; friendship is not advisable; you will only hurt yourself and be uncomfortable; specially if the other party has somebody around with him; If you still have feelings and or hopes....Forget the friendship idea!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): at this moment in time, im going through the whole phase of 'friends after a relationship' and tbh i am finding it difficult. i personally dont think friendships can work but then again i feel that you shouldnt just give up on him/her that easily because they once went out with you and they were your friend, closer than all your other friends. the reason it hurts so much is because you choose your gf/bf carefully and you dont see them hurting you, so when they do, it hurts tenfold.if im honest, i would advise you to stay away from them until you are genuinely ready to be in a frienship.just give yourself some space to reflect on you and whether this whole friends thing could actually work.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 I personally never found it easy to remain friends with someone who I had been intimate with...how do you 'hang out' without wanting to touch or think of that closeness that was once there...or why it didn't work etc?? I also coudn't have stood to see them with their next GF...Having said that - I know people who have been able to make the adjustment quite easily...I think it's very subjective.
Now...reading your question/s it would seem that you are wondering whether you might have a chance to rekindle something with this 'ex'. If you still have feelings for him it is unlikely a 'friendship' with him will be possible...or wise for that matter. It's a very different type of relationship to what I think it is you are hoping for. Maybe I am wrong??
If you are wanting something more...better to be honest about it, rather than mask it as "being friends"...that will make things alot simpler - it will be his call then!
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