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writes:Is it possible for 2 people to be attracted by their scent, or by their odor? I met this chick about 2 months ago and we really like each other, almost as if we're in love. This chick told me not too long ago that the first thing that attracted her to me was my "scent", the way I smelled.. It wasn't my cologne either. She felt as if it were a familiar smell, although she never smelled it before. She loves the way I smell even when I don't smell quite good lol, had to throw that in there.. And well, I am very attracted to the way her skin and her hair smell, it drives me insane, more when she's not wearing perfume, and when she sweats, dear god she smells fantastic. I feel like I want to eat her, just not literally, and I can feel how much she wants me. I just really want to know if it can just be lust, or it is possible to fall for someone because of this, isn't that how many animals find each other, by scent? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 What difference does it make really? You're into her (for whatever reason) and she is into you. That's usually good. A lot more of how we react and think is based on instincts than we like to admit. "Loving" someone is not detached from instincts. And a romantic love is certainly not detached from instincts. Imagine cuddling up to someone you love who reeks. I can't see that happening.
Being attracted to someone IS tied up with instincts. Being attracted to someone is telling you if they are good to breed with or not. Being in love is your body telling you it is time to breed (why do you think teenagers are so obsessed with sex and babies?). You can't take out the instincts when it comes to who you are attracted to, so why not embrace it? "Just lust" doesn't mean it is somehow not worth your attention, or that you should dismiss this.
But also know that her scent alone doesn't mean you are soul mates. You need to know more about her before you can declare a true love for her.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Read up on pheromones. Human might not have the best sense of smell, but we do use it a lot. I DO think it's more about lust (at least at first) then actual love.
Ask any European about walking into a bakery, a butcher and they will tell you what images JUST the smell invoke. :)
Scent can be a powerful thing.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Yes, exactly. That's why we say that animals are in heat and not that they fall in love .
It's lust. It's physical , it's biochemical. I don't doubt it's very powerful, some scents are strongly aphrodisiac.
But from being turned on by each other scent, to love each other as persons and be compatible personalities, there's a long long way, in fact they are two different things.
I am not saying it can't happen, maybe it will. But you will have to know each other , and like each other , for much more than just your scents.
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