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writes:I know this sounds far-fetched, but what are the chances of meeting a possible boyfriend over the internet, if he lives in another country? I would like to have a boyfriend, but the guys in my area don't interest me. I just got back from Spain (I was there for over a month), and there are some really handsome guys over there. I wonder if one of those guys could potentially like me, but I feel a bit hopeless. On a tourist visa, you only get three months in Spain... in order to have any kind of relationship it seems to me that you would have to spend a substantial amount of time physically there. So... I'd like to hear from people who have met their partner over the internet, especially if you live in different countries. Am I just dreaming or is it even possible? I don't see how I could return to Spain long enough to have a lasting relationship, or one that could endure when I'm overseas. I could study a Master's there or something, but that takes awhile. I wonder if a guy from Spain would even be interested in me. I don't feel desirable or anything; I often feel very plain and wonder how a guy could ever be interested in me. I worry that I'm not pretty enough for a guy from Spain to be interested in me. All the guys over there are really handsome. I wonder if I'm too old and ugly for one of those guys to be interested in. :( I'm an American and Floridian, but I've always identified with Hispanic culture and been attracted to Hispanic guys. I'm not trying to be mean, but I am not attracted to "my own kind." My mom says I just haven't met the right American yet, but I know in my heart I'm just attracted to Hispanics. Nothing wrong with the other groups. It's just natural that I would be! I've always loved and identified with Latin stuff and always wanted to be part of the Latin world. It's natural that I'd be drawn to a guy from a Latin country.Even if there WERE guys from Spain in my area... that wouldn't work!! I don't like where I live (North Carolina) at all... and if I met a guy here... I'd be stuck.I studied abroad in Mexico and Mexican guys are sweet and handsome. Sadly, though, I met a guy down there and he broke my heart... I thought he really liked me but he eventually wound up with a girlfriend from his own culture. I'm definitely NOT racist and I have loads of Mexican friends, but this one guy hurt me so badly.I'll never love ANYONE as much as I loved him, but I've moved on with my life and there's no magic potion or spell to make him love me. I've tried to be grateful for the stuff I DO have. While I'll never love anyone like I loved this guy I have moved on with my life and certainly don't want to be alone forever. I wouldn't use a guy just to get citizenship, or anything like that, but I don't wanna be stuck in North Carolina either. I'm never gonna love anyone enough to spend my life here.I'm not the most trusting soul and I realize that meeting someone online is potentially really risky but I keep my eyes open and I good common sense.Could this work? I'm scared I'm not pretty enough for a Spanish guy to be interested in me and I really think that meeting one online sounds far-fetched.
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reader, rose007  +, writes (4 April 2010):
I don't think you should limit yourself to someone from Spain. You kept saying that you didn't like the place you lived, maybe you should just move then start a new life.
And I think you can meet a guy online, but if it works out in the long run your either going to have to move or he will.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Yes! It is possible and there have been cases where people found love in the internet and across the continents.
You will need to be wary and check him out before you commit. There have been cases where the girls were tricked and forced into prostitution's after they were tricked into marrying those swindlers.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 You don't trust, have a broken heart and say you can never love another man like you loved your ex??? also thrashing about wondering if a long distance internet thing will work for you? You dont see yourself as desirable or pretty? and you think no man could ever find you attractive??
Negative negative negative!!!!
Hell I don't know you but I would say you need to deal with all those serious issues before inflicting yourself on someone else.
You can't run away from your problems, they will follow you where ever you go until you deal with them.
Get some therapy...you seriously need it.
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