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writes:Just like some thoughts on this,can a person be in love someone, yet be missing someone else?I find it hard to believe that you can but????? Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (18 April 2012):
 My point was that we need more info, you are too vague.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012): Yes. As Eyes said, you can love your husband/bf, but miss a dear friend or family member who has passed away, or moved far away.I think you are implying something else. If you were married before or in a long term relationship, and that person passes away. You can fall in love again, and love your new husband/bf, but still miss what you had with your former husband. As long as you don't dwell on that person to the point where it impacts your current relationship, it is a completely normal thing to feel.Let me share a little story about my wife and I and closure. My wife was seriously dating this guy before she met me. He never went to college and his parents were forcing him out of the house. He decided to join the Army and put in to be shipped out of country (I think Germany). He was assigned for 2 years. Right before he left he asked my wife to marry him. She said yes, but she says it was only because he was going away. Not that they wouldn't have ended up engaged at some point, they might had. Well, we met, started dating, got engaged, and got married during the time this guy was away. She did tell him in a letter, and his responses were pathetic and begging her to wait for him. Too late, I know my wife loved him, but she also now loved me. Even more than she ever loved him. When he came back, he got our phone number from my wife's parents. He called and begged my wife to meet with him. I told her to go, just drive herself, actually, I ended up driving her to the restaurant and just walked around town while they met, had some drinks, and talked. I don't know exectly what she said to him, but it was closure for my wife. Now over 25 years later, I'm sure she doesn't think of him or miss him anymore, but I'm sure in the beginning of our marriage she did. Meeting him, and reinforcing our committent to each other did a world of good.Sounds like you have someone from your past who you still miss. If you truly love the one you're with now, get yourself some closure with this other guy. In time, you will forget all about him, but it takes time, and a strong new relationship for that to happen. Good Luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 April 2012):
I love my husband but I miss my dearly departed mother.
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