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writes:my ex left me for another girl 8 months ago yet we've still remained in touch. he says he still loves me and would like to think we'll get back together some day. he also admits that he loves her and doesnt know what to do. What's he playing at? You can't love 2 people at the same time can you?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 To love some one means, to make some 'one' as uniquely ONE. Of course, one can have sex with more than one, but love is very rigid and orthodox in this sense. To have such love is positive values. Such love do not demand faith, but honesty, intimacy,and total possession. Our modern culture do not favor possessive mentality, but love need absolute possession- To possess someone, and to be possess by someone.
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reader, cnith  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 You can love two people at the same time. As sweetspicy says, you can love your mother, your father, your lover, your child, etc. Love is not limited.
But that's not really your question, is it? Your question is, is this guy playing you?
Yes he is. He's keeping you 'on the side' until it no longer works out with the other girl. Then he'll say "iIlove you! I've always loved you! She meant nothing to me, it was a mistake!" blah blah blah bull...
And then he'll string you along until another girl catches his eyes and he'll do it again as long as you LET him.
Men are like children in that way, they keep pushing boundaries and buttons to find out just WHAT they can get away with...and let's not lie, women, we do it too. We're just more sly about it and men are clueless, often, about it because they don't think like we do but you all know what I'm saying is true. We test and push just as much.
The point is, though, what are you willing to live with? Can you really love someone who plays these games? Are you OK being with a cheater? Are you OK with someone loving you part time like this? I'm not. You, however, are another story. Each of us knows what we can tolerate. Search yourself and you have the answer.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (9 April 2010):
 Can you love two people at the same time? Yes
Should you be with someone who loves two people at the same time? No
Run away. He can't commit so you don't want him.
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reader, sweetspicy +, writes (9 April 2010):
 It sounds like he still has some serious attachments to you and since your still talking to him even though you know he is with some body else, perhaps you feel the same way. It is possible to love more than one person at the same time for instance I love my son and my mom and my dad. I think what you mean is it's not possible to love more than one person unconditionally and he doesnt, other wise he would have been to buisy with his new girlfriend to even think about you. With that in mind becareful, he doesnt sound sure of himself and could hurt you in the process of finding out what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): You can love two people in different ways. Don't get back with him! He left you for her, he can stay with her. You should move on and find better and someone who appreciates you!
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reader, Ne'cee +, writes (9 April 2010):
 He is playing you both. He is keeping you there just in case the other girl doesnt work out. HE LEFT YOU. That tells you something right there. If you really loved you, he wouldnt have left you for her. Do you really want to be with someone that can decide at any moment they want to be with someone else. Now he knows he can leave you and come back any time. This is going to be a vicous cycle if you keep talking to him. I bet his new GF doesnt know he is still talking to you, let alone telling you he still loves you. He's playing you!
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reader, indianna +, writes (9 April 2010):
you're right: you can't love two people at the same time. if he claims to have equal feelings for you and this other girl he is either lying (stringing you along, and her) or he doesn't know what true love is.
true love should have you feeling complete and not wanting anyone else. sorry to say it but i suspect he's playing you for a fool and i'd advise you to walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): the answer is yes. You can love the two people at the same time. Love is not restricted to one objection. It is a way of knowing each other. If you like two people and you cannot choose from them, don't go out with one. You know why. These things will only come from deep inside you...
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