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anonymous
writes:My ex boyfriend and I had a pretty good relationship. He was generally really sweet too me, but when we got into the few arguements we did had, i'll admit we both got pretty nasty.All in all, I basically was inlove. I had pretty much everything I wanted with him and more. My parents did not approve of him really, but since they could see how much I liked him, they gave it there best shot and decided to give him a chance.Ever since the break up it's been a whirl wind, or as some may say a disaster! It's been a month since we broke up, and I'm still not over it. Our break up consisted of alot of fighting, name calling, threats and basically the whole bad package, that includes a pregnancy scare and an std.It was only about a week ago, I discovered I had an std, but in Summer of 2008, I had intercourse with another guy and rumours swirled that he had an std too, so now my ex boyfriend is saying that he never gave me an std, I gave him an std! Is it possible that I had an std all this time and it didn't show up until a week ago? (How convenient)As much as I try to be mad at him for everything that has happened over the course of the past month, I can't seem to do it, as much as I want to hate him, something always pulls me back.My ex boyfriend and I, have good talks when we're not fighting about something. I know he still feels what I feel, but the difference between him and I is I don't wanna feel this way. My mom HATES him, strong enough word as it is, but it's nessesary i'd say. There is no chance in hell she'd ever let us date again, and she is digusted with me and can't be bothered, and wonders how I still even talk to him after everything he has put me through.What is the first step to getting over him? and can you ever really hate the one you love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Hey honey, sounds HORRIBLE!
While I am making assumptions, sounds like
this guy was kind of a jerk? I know it's hard to let go..
but there are plently of fish in the sea, trust me!! I know it doesn't feel that way right now.. but you just gotta let go in order to find out. Your mom can't expect you to HATE him really.. you guys sound like you had a deep relationship, it's hard when your young.. im sure thats not hard for her to comprehend.. try not to talk to him, maybe in a while you guys can try the whole 'friends' thing, as for now.. cut him off, don't be dangled by a string, he knows what buttons to press and he will keep on pushing them..
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reader, Ted-ster  +, writes (2 March 2009):
Yes, you can hate someone you've loved before. Indeed. Kinda of a cute question. Indifference as a reaction to a person you've dated previously meant that you didn't really love them. Now hatred: That must have been a really hot, steamy relationship there:) Powerful emotions. And, yes, you could have given him the STD. Sounds like you need to make better choices in the future instead.
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