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writes:So, me and my boyfriend of a year and 3 months broke up today. Well, I told him we should just be friends which I want to do, I just don't want to be in a relationship right now because I feel too young for that, I'm only 16. Anyways, he got mad saying "I knew you'd say this, you don't want me anymore" etc... So I know it's kind of messed up to just break up like that but it's worse to carry on when I'm not ready to. Anyways, I still want to be friends, how can I do that? Or is it maybe not possible?
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reader, nightgurl +, writes (4 July 2010):
 it is possible let him cool off a little then suggest the friend thing again if he dosent want to then leave it alone he will learn hes giving up something he loves
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): probably not at least for now. someday it may be possible.
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 You started a relationship with your boyfriend a year and a few months ago,when you were younger than you are now. And now you've decided that you feel your too young for a relationship..what were you thinking wen u were 15? if your too young now then surely you were far too young then.
It seems kinda unfair on him that you've suddenly decided after over a year that your too young to be having a relationship. i doubt thats the only reason? something else must of triggered you into wanting to break up with him.
i think its going to really hard for him to remain friends with you especially judging by his reaction. Its really hard for any couple to remain friends after a break up simply because theres a lot of mixed emotions going on, your boyfriend is still going to be angry at you for breaking up with him so it will be hard for him to keep a friendly atmosphere with you. He probably doesnt understand where all this is coming from,if you simply don't want to be with him because you feel your too young then why would you waste his time for over a year. as far as hes concerned before all this you both were happy and everything was great.
I guess you could try the friends thing,its worth a shot. make sure thats what you want first though..you must still have feelings for him after that long of a relationship. make sure that throwing that away is the right decision.
I get what your saying though 16 is a little young to be tying yourself down in a serious relationship,you should be having fun. what i don't understand though is how could you think you were ready at 15 and decide at 16 that your not?
Good luck to you anyway,i hope everything works out for you x
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