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writes:Can we make it work? Ever?I have been separated from my soon to be ex husband for over 6 months. I cheated on him and he found out from my best friend. I broke his heart. We were still sleeping together for a brief period after we split. Then I met somebody and broke it off with him. We haven't really talked much in 5 or so months except for the kids (we have two). I thought I was over him. Then all of a sudden my feelings came back out of nowhere. I still love him and want to be with him and want to be a family again. I told him how i felt. He said he wants the divorce to be final for closure. He said that we can't be together right now but maybe in the future. He wants to stay friends. So I stayed with my boyfriend, but i finally broke it off with my boyfriend because of my feelings for my estranged husband. We met up the other night and slept together. After we just talked about life for hours. He wants to do it again. I know he still loves me. My question is this; should I try and win him back or should I just let it go and move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe said that MAYBE in the future we can be together. But not right now. He wants the divorce for sure and he is enjoying being single and doesn't want a relationship right now (with me or anybody else). thats why I am confused on whether to win him back or let go
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): You don't know which way to turn to make him want to return to you and when he finally does you start from the beginning again with the doubts.Why are you so fluctuant? It will seem you are playing with him if you continue in this fashion. You must decide for once whether you can commit to him or not. You say that he wants to try again so why do you consider giving up? Do you fear you won't be able to be faithful? Do you fear for you or him? Maybe you should look for other deeper issues here, dear.
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