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writes:Hi to every one I need your help like every one douse but I just can't take it no more it make me crazy not knowing will I have this friend that I been messing with we make out and have fun and I see him some times I'm 18 teen he is 24 years old but I've been seening him for a year but evey time I ask him what I'm to him or see if he call me his girl or give me a label he just kisss me and sead go with the floo he sead he could give me a label just that I'm staring to fall in love with him.it didnt bother befor that I was just his friend to do stuff with but this is the part that make me crazy is he tell me that he's mine and only mine and that he's all for me but how could he say that if he won't give me a label go say I his...but that not just not all I'm falling for him we have sex but I fill that that I'm the one that is going to be hUrt so plz help me if you could =(....xoxo Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u for careing and taking the time to help me....
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reader, rainydayz +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Dear Im not positive about this guy's feelings as I dont know him and but if he is anything like my ex, he will only end up breaking your heart. In the beginning I thought I could handle a friends with benefits type relationship with him (Im 19, hes 23) He would tell me that the reason we are not together is because he needs to get into law school so he is only concentrating on that but also kept telling me how much he likes me and made me feel like the prettiest girl in the world. But as the months went by, I realized that I needed more than just sex from him, as I was falling in love with him. So I finally told him, either we go out or we're done and he asked me to be his girlfriend. We did bf/gf stuff and I was so happy calling him my boyfriend. A week later, he called me and said that he didnt want a girfriend right now because of his grades. That broke my heart into pieces and it was the worst time in life and I still feel hurt but Im slowly recovering. So my advice to you would be to get out before you fall madly in love with him like I did. Yes this will hurt, but in the end it will hurt a lot more when you keep giving yourself to him without a commitment. I dont want anyone to ever go through what I did, I just wish I listened to people who kept telling me to leave him before he left me. Think about it, if he really liked you, you two would be in a relationship right now and he would have no problem calling you his girlfriend. Good luck hun!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): It sounds like to me that he just really wants to take it slow when he says go with the flow. Sometimes guy's are not too big on labels like we women are. He may just not be ready to make a full commitment right now. I'd agree and just go with the flow. Don't get yourself tooo attached because you never know what will happen. And also, you may not want to push that subject on him toooo much especially if he is not ready because that can also push him away. I'm dealing with someone like this. Known him for 7 years. we started out as "sex buddies" and made it official to only see each other 3 months but...there is no label, I brought it up and guess what? he said the samething, lets just go with the flow. I asked him what was wrong why couldnt we just be bf and gf, he has been in pretty bad relatiniships in the past and is not completely ready for a commmitment in fear of it not working so he wants to take it slow making sure nothing goes wrong. So see, there could be many reasons why your guy wants to just go with the flow.But try asking him flat out if you want to. "why do you want to go with the flow" hope this helps
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