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30-35,
*arkside726
writes:Help me! Me and my gf were together for a year and a half before we broke up and we have a baby together. We took a break for six months and jst got back together. Things were good at first but now its turning into our first relationship all over again. She lied to me about talking to her ex, i lied to her about going out with friends, now we dont trust each other again and i feel so helpless. i love this girl and i want my future to have her in it. I do everything i can to support her financially but i have trouble emotionally cause im a very sensative guy. Everytime we argue she breaks up with me and tells me she doesnt want a bf and everytime tht happens it kills me emotionally. i get so depressed. i I want to be with this girl i love her and i want us to be together for our son and for me. How do we get past our trust issues and how do we stop fighting? Or is the situation hopeless?
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reader, soon567 +, writes (4 December 2010):
No it’s not hopeless and you don’t need counseling, what you two need is forgiveness. You know why she can’t come to you and I think you should stop asking her about it. When you forgive someone you totally drop it, never toss it in their face, not saying you’re doing it. Just sit and talk and discuss what’s bothering you two. If she headed to tell me something I think I wouldn’t want to know I would stop her. Those things can never be undone, ever.
You can move forward or dwell on the past ingression that choice is yours I know it takes two and it would take the two of you to forgive each other. When that thing hurts you, you walk away it will pass and get easier as time passes. Sometimes when you continue to hurt each other and you can solve all the problem between the two of you, It has been so much hurt that your relationship has to end. You shouldn’t let it get to this point. I would sit and talk then ask her if there’s any way that she can forgive you. She may even see where she went wrong and ask you forgiveness. You two are pushing each other way because of hurt instead of moving forward together.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (2 December 2010):
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YOu two are so young, still immature, still very emotional and at time irrational. It would be good to get a third objective party involved.
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