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*onfusedJuggalette
writes:how can i still love him after he did what he did? i was with my ex boyfriend for a little over 2 years, and we have a beautiful daughter together. but he use to hit me, all the time, for no reason at all. and i still love him. i feel that even after all he has done to me. to my daughter, that he is still worth it. i dont understand what makes me feel that i need him still. can someone please tell me why i still love this man?
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reader, ConfusedJuggalette +, writes (12 February 2009):
ConfusedJuggalette is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well i did leave him, back in 2007. and i didnt have a problem not thinking about him until he started talking to me a few weeks monhts ago, its obvious that he has mental issues, and i know i do not want him around my daughter. she is too good to be put in that position to have to see her father act the way he did. You may be right, you said i am too weak to be independent, and i never thought of myself that way. but you may be right, but then can you tell me what the hell i have to do to make myself forget about him? But i do not agree with the whole letting the abuse happen as long as there is a man in the house. i was 15 when i got pregnant by him he was 22.i had never been with anyone else, he was all i ever knew. I honestly thought he ment it when he told me that he loved me. i know i might sound like i am making excuses for myself, and im really not. i know i shouldnt have let myself get put in the position where someone would think that they could treat me like that. but i did, and now i am trying to get over all the things that happend.. so. could someone please try to give me some advice????
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reader, Auntie Stoned +, writes (12 February 2009):
Have you heard of Stockholm Syndrome whereby victim comes to sympathise and love their captors? You are one of them. This man abused and treated you as punching bag. You still feel for him because you are afraid of living alone and losing a father for your daughter.In other words, you are too weak to be independent. Hence, tolerate abuses from a scumbag so long there is a man in the house. Apparently this man has a behavioural and mental problem. Do you want to live with him for the rest of your life? How about your daughter? One parent's bad behaviour and abusive nature could rub on the child. The only one who could help him is himself. For christ sake, you do not have to put up with shits from him. Get out for the future of your daughter and your mental health.
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