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writes:what is all the stuff about boyfrinds treating their girlfriends like a princess aboutSorry I am clueless about this.How is this done?What do I do?why is it required? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2012): Treating a girl like a princess entails you supplicating to her every whim and wishes, being a doormat, and enabling her distorted sense of self-worth and self-entitlement. If, however, you want to treat a girl like a woman, then you simply treat her as you would like to be treated. And make sure she has the right mentality and not the princess mentality. i.e. not appreciating what you do, but EXPECTING it. Ask yourself: "how would I feel if she did/didn't do this?" Then, behave accordingly.How would you feel if your woman surprised you with that new 40inch HDTV? I bet you'd like that, wouldn't you?She, likewise, would love that (whatever a woman likes) - so be a man and get it for her. She'll love it, and you'll feel good about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): No woman likes bad boys in a long run. We like good men, who are being gentlemen with us. It's a rare find nowadays, all we hear now is a talk about equality.Men just love the theory, how convenient for them. Split the bill at the restaurant, hotel, or better for them even if a woman pays for everything.if you don't do all described above you are on your way to find a nice girl, just don't do the equality talk, that's a huge deal breaker for most of us!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): You're wasting your time my friend, in my experience.
Women tell guys they want a nice respectable boyfriend, who will treat her like a princess, but in actual fact, they can't resist a bad boy who treats them like crap.
I like to think of myself as a nice decent guy, I always treat women well, (or what one would presume to be well), but they've all just walked over me like a doormat.
Women are the most confusing things on the planet, I'll be damned if a man ever figures them out.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 October 2012):
 Depends on how SHE defines princess.
I am the queen of our home... that means:
I want to be respected
I want to be treated with affection and admiration but not told lies
I want to be important in his life... not his be all to end all but I do want to be the first person he wants to talk to in the morning, and the last one he says good night to. Special events such as good news at work... he wants to tell me first.... I'm his best friend...
it means I get a thoughtful gift for my birthday and anniversary but stupid gifts throughout the year... he sees a book I know I like, he picks it up for me and gives it to me when I get home... birthdays and anniversaries : dinner out, roses and jewelery please
but coming home midweek and saying "honey let's go out to dinner" is always nice...
I am NOT high maintenance emotionally (different from fiscally) and yet I expect these things... and none of them are too hard... an emotionally high maintenance woman is going to be very tiring (same for a EHM man...) they are exhausting.
I am with Bass Chick if a woman tells you this early on in the relationship, then she's being honest that she's high maintenance and you should run in the other direction.
Everyone should be treated with respect. Someone you are dating or involved with should easily be given more than respect... just up the ante a bit...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): It basically means to be treated with love and respect. Thats all i really ask for. If someone expects to have their every need attended to, than they are spoiled brats.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): Ask her about her favorite romantic movies. Then watch them. You'll get the idea.
And listen to aunt Basschick. She's wise.
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reader, Hennessy1989  +, writes (13 October 2012):
 Treating someone like a princess is just a saying. In my experience what a girl really needs is love and respect in a relationship, going all out to shower someone with gifts is not the way forward
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 October 2012):
 It's not required, but it works if you want to charm her and make her stay in a relationship. Although each to their own, different women prefer different things. Personally I'd rather be treated like a queen, but same difference I guess.
It just means you do things for her, randomly, unannounced, that makes her feel special. Do her favours, are a gentleman who opens doors and offers to take her places. Gives her compliments, or maybe buys her things. Just that you do things to please her, out of your own good will, without anyone telling you you should do it.
If you've got a good girlfriend she'll treat you like a king in return ;)
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reader, kellyO +, writes (13 October 2012):
 Treating a girl like a princess might mean different things to different people. For me I do believe my husband treats me very special almost I would say like a princess but i equally treat him very special as well. It should be a two way thing. I have never asked how to be treated and neither has he.
For me treating someone special like a princess involves little things like holding hands when walking down the street, open the door for her, give her your coat if she is cold, give yourselves random hugs and kisses, do random call telling her or him how you miss them, do something for her without asking like buying chocolate on your way back from the office, tell her or him daily that you love them, touch often like little love touches, talk well of her in front of friends and show her off, remembering her or his birthday, anniversary and get each other a card or gift.
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2012): What is it all about? B.S. Sorry for being so blunt. While it's important to treat another human with respect, regardless of sex, this 'princess' nonsense is ridiculous. For the last 40 years, women have come on par, and in many regards gone above and beyond, equality with men and yet so many hold on to this notion that 'their man needs to pamper them to their every need...if not, they'll find another man who will.' You can't expect equality in some areas of life, yet not in others - it's a double standard. If she treats you like a king, deservedly so, treat her like a queen. If she treats you like 'meh', why kill yourself to make her feel special?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (13 October 2012):
 OMG surely you didn't just meet someone who actually told you this is how she is expected to be treated?! If so I'd say, run the other way and keep on running. You are entering a high-maintenance relationship with someone who expects to be pampered, babied and shielded from all things unpleasant. Let me guess, she's probably rich and used to doing nothing except lounging around waiting for people to hand things to her. Women who insist on being treated like a "princess" are usually spoiled and demanding, along with immature and unable to think for themselves. Sure every woman wants to be treated with respect and feel valued. But I think if she's expecting the princess treatment you are in for alot of work.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (13 October 2012):
Hi there. Basically, it means to treat a girl with respect and dignity.
To have consideration for her feelings at all times.
To treat her well.
To spend some money on her - although not extravagantly so, of course.
Like taking her to see a show and perhaps dinner beforehand.
In other words not just picking her up to take to your place for sex and then dropping her home after.
That would be Friends With Benefits.
Taking her to nice places, and asking her what she would like to do - talking things over with her.
Showing a genuine interest in her and in her life, and her doing the same for you.
And more importantly, not doing this because you think it is expected of you.
Being your real self with her at all times, and not pretending.
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