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writes:I’ve had a crush on a guy that lives in my neighborhood for about eight years. Actually he lives in the building right next to mine, and we’ve never said a word to one another but when we walk by each other we almost always make eye contact. So I sometimes feel maybe he may think I’m cute. I feel like it’s gone on way too long and my feelings just keep intensifying for him. One of the problems is that I have this insane idea that we are truly meant to be together, and that’s part of the reason I feel like I can’t move on. Which makes me sort of depressed because I feel like I’ll never get over him and every time I leave my building I’m always worried I might see him with his girlfriend and get that deer caught in the headlights look on my face. I truly believe the only way I may be able to get over him is to move to another neighborhood, state, or country. Can someone give me advice on how I can stop these feeling for him, or am I going to have to relocate?
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reader, KeKeloland +, writes (14 August 2008):
KeKeloland is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u all so much 4 your advice. I truly needed it, I’m just going to do my best to avoid him so I can give myself time to get over him. God Bless & thank u again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Have you ever tried to have a conversation with this fellow? Neighbors talk to each other all the time....hey did you see Mrs. SoandSo's car? Did you see the apt. 5 burn down? You share a neighborhood, there is a lot of gossip to be had.I don't believe you were meant to be together, 8 years is a long time and a guy that likes you would have struck up the nerve to talk to you already, but perhaps you are both shy.So next time something fantastic happens in the neighborhood, and you see him.......TALK TO HIM! The easiest way to get over someone is to get to know them. All the prince charming traits you have imagined him to have are probably non-existent. But you never kknow until you get to know him.
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Oh dear, Kekeloland, Why go through all that upheaval of moving home for a crush who may or may not have even given you a second thought?You sound like you're totally obsessed with this guy. You really must snap out of it. It's just a fantasy on your behalf.If you've got it that bad send him a note, see how he responds to it, however be prepared, you may not like the reply. On the other hand, maybe don't do that, like you said, he already has a girlfriend and it wouldn't be fair on her, so scrap that idea. He might have noticed your body language when you crossed paths, and he's probably feeling flattered that you've noticed him, but you don't know if this girlfriend of his is his future wife, she may even already be his wife, you know nothing about him. You have to understand that this may never happen. Stop obsessing over him and train yourself to move on, {but not move away} and get yourself out there and meet someone else. If it's meant to happen with this guy ~ it will, but don't go uprooting yourself on the grounds of there being a this fantasy in your head that you're meant to be together. It's not healthy and not worth it. I can't think of anything else to say to you, but just try to stop feeling depressed. Please.Take care, Hon.BigSisxXx
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