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writes:hey guys. so i been going out with my boyfreind for 2 months but been together for awhile. i love him and hes so sweet to me. for my birthday he got me the nicest necklace and everything.. the other night he was at a party and did something horrible that made him loook stupid and ruined his reputation. what his did made me so discusted . we have been getting in little fights alot. but i cant stop thinking about what he did. so tonight i decided to tell him i need some space for now to get over what he did and just think of things. he is hurting so much right now and i feel horrible idont know what to do. he loves me so much more theni love him. and i clearly will get back together with him but just not right now. im embaressed to be his girlfreind after what he did. what do you think i should do. i dont want him hurting hiself. he used to cut hiself back then
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 If he loves you a lot more than you love him, I'd be cautious as to whether you two have a future. I went out with a guy where it just started out as 'a bit of fun', until the guy fell into a state of complete infatuated love. I on the other hand, knew that my feelings for him would never reach anything like that stage. To stay with him would have probably increased his feelings and the eventual breakup would have been even more crushing to him than it actually was. He went through a 'I'm gonna cut myself if you ditch me' (which is emotional BLACKMAIL, by the way, don't let it happen to you) stage, but it quickly passed when he realised that by saying that he'd completely pushed me away.
Obviously you do have feelings for him, but ask yourself if you're ever going to fall madly in love with him. If the answer's no, I'd say that in the long run, it'd be fairer on both of you if you left him now. Be nice, be understanding, but don't stay with him because he wants you to. Do what you feel is right, however hard it is.
Good luck and take some tissues with you if you decide that's the best option... xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbasically he was with older kids, and he set up a plan wiith them to jump a kid. who is my freind and my boyfreind used to be bestfreinds wtih thim. so i thought that was discusting and horrible
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