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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out about 6 months.....everything is fine......i think.Well im 14 and hes 16, but we've BOTH been through a lot. As in stuff adults go through in later years-things that make us more mature then others. The guy works seven days a week during the summer and after school and bought a double wide trailer for his dad, sister, two brothers, and himself to live in. His dad has bad heart and lung problems so yeah he had to grow up fast.Anyway, hes the type of guy parents wish their daughters would end up with and never says i love you to anyone unless he means it and i know he's in love with me.(His dad even had that ' my son really is IN love with you' talk.)Yeah.I saw him yesterday for the first time since school ended and we spent almost ten hours together and had a great time. Then today he's acting different.Like he called and asked how i was, how was my day and all like he always does, then said he was waiting on his boss-he was still working.From like four thirty am and it was then nine pm!!!......and he said well ill let you go..i love you.I didnt really hear it cuz something distracted me and i said okay byeUsually he'll go 'baby...i love you'if I dont say it but today nothing.I know...stupid right? But there was something in his voice.....He lives for me. Seriously.The guy would take a bullet for me and Im lucky to be with someone like him.But I just feel like he didn't care. Like there was something wrong...is he getting bored with me?Sorry I couldn't explain it better....am I just being paranoid?I really do love him....as I said we both are mature enough to know the difference........Can someone explain to me why i'm acting paranod if thats what it is..?Please help!Thanks!
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reader, oldeyes +, writes (16 June 2008):
something is wrong! you have a keen sense although it may not be what you think because that same emotion can signify so many things. It's not like you have a built in radar for cheats. What these emotions signify is a turning point in the relationship. I can see you two have something great going so this is the time to talk to him and he should be willing to talk as well. But remember that it doesn't mean he's cheating on you. He could be mad at you for something you may or may not have had control over. please go talk to him. the thing about being so young is that, you may be wise and you may have been through many things, but you are changing so much at this time, just given the physiological aspects, hormones and such, things you cannot help. I would imagine you are more wize than most adults from the way you put things so I will tell you to trust in yourself and realize that even though you two are right for eachother in so many ways, that if you continually try to talk to him and you both can't open up about this, things may get out of hand. Honey, things change no matter how prepared we are but because you caught this now, even a fight may bring you closer together but you need this talk, they are like growing pains in a relationship. best to you dear. if you are so awesome now, you will make a kick ass old lady!!
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