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writes:If you do some very bad things, more than once, to your partner, and then break up over it, do you think it can make them stop loving you? or do you think they still love you really, but just act like they dont like you? Can some people just turn love on and off? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 February 2012):
 Yes of course. Not on and off like, immediately, on tap, but in time, and if the bad things goes on repeatedly , and are bad enough to break up, then for sure. Only a person with no self love and no self respect could continue to love indefinetely someone whom he/she is receiving constnt bad treatment from.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): Yes, i believe if you treat someone bad enough, for long enough then eventualy they will stop loving you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): Its the hurt and pain and mistrust that deadens ones feelings and has them go dormat. Its common when trust and friendship of the relationship has been betrayed.
Its a process of coping and healing. Like mourning over a death of a precious piece of the relationship. In this time, deep reflection is occuring and it may be the time of this is a make or break the relationship for good.
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reader, shawncaff  +, writes (19 February 2012):
 I think that love is an act of will. We have to put in effort to love the person. If it is one-sided, eventually most of us will have to stop our efforts.
It becomes one-sided when it becomes clear that the person we trying to love is either rejecting our love or else is doing things to hurt us.
If the person who is hurt feels like it is going to continue like this forever, he or she will stop the act of loving eventually. They may always have a soft spot for you, kind of like a dormant disease that could become active again, but the act of loving will stop at that point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): if you have hurt someone constantly then that person will eventualy learn not to love you anymore. bad memories to love is like water is to fire.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (19 February 2012):
 In case you are asking for a reason, then if someone has been acting like he doesnt like you for more than a few weeks, then he`s probably not acting. He wont have just turned off his love, its already been turned off for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): "do you think it can make them stop loving you?"
Yes of course. If someone does something bad enough love can easily turn to hate. There is a fine line between the two.
"do you think they still love you really, but just act like they dont like you?"
That's possible but it's irrelevant because if that's what they're doing then it's better you assume they don't and just move on because they obviously don't want to love you, which is a very bad situation to be in for a person. Because loving someone you shouldn't can often make you hate yourself.
"Can some people just turn love on and off?"
No one can do that but as I said love turns to hate in the blink of an eye. All that passion can easily turn into a bitter profound hatred instead of love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): Experience taught me a lot of things about relationships and men and i still cannot figure how someone can turn their love on and off i tried to turn my love off but found it impossible even though we had zero contact maybe thats what turning your love off means to diffrent people
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