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writes:I have a question, Its always been something I've wondered myself in the past and also when looking and the whole concept of a relationship in general. However recently I feel im loosing my best friend whos a male because he now has a girlfriend as I barely see him :( He is 22 and shes 17.He never seemed the type to spend all his free time with a girl or anything, hes always been someone whos got a very busy lifestyle, working, out with his mates etc. He used to moan that he never had time off on saturday nights to go out with his mates, yet now hes getting saturday nights off work hes spending them with her, who is too young to go to the places he used to go with his friends and we used to go. Hes only been with this girl afew weeks as well.So I'm asking how often is to often to be seeing someone, and is there a chance that seeing them that often will break them up. I know he see's her 4-5 times a week in general, odd time could be 6. I wouldn't view 4 as alot its just all his free time away from work is spent with her. He has 2 days off work where she is at work so he does get the day to himself but he see's her at night, when he would usually go out with his friends. Instead hes with her friends and her now.On the days he works at night he tends to see her during the day and then theres two days where they're both at work so don;t see each other. Overall it amounts to about 4/5 times a week they see each other.I know its not ALL the time theyre together but its pretty much all of his free time, yes he gets the time shes at work to himself on two of the days but not the nights to see his friends etc. I miss him and I never thought he'd be the type to end up like this. Will it fade out and also just asking in general, can seeing someone this much break people up and cause problems as I have always been weary of this myself.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (13 August 2012):
 I love my girlfriend to bits and we love seeing each as often as we can. No number of times is too much when you're in love!
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 person12345 is right on this one
this is normal and in fact at this stage in the relationship I'm surprised they don't see each even more!
one of my ex's and I pretty much dropped all our friends just to spend all our time together at the beginning and then i eventually gradually started hanging out with my friends more once the honeymoon period was over
I have also been in a situation like this where a few of my girlfriends stopped coming around for a while at the beginning of a new relationship..after a few months they started coming around again
I can't really judge how long their relationship will last because I don't know how their relationship is together
you also sound a bit jealous about this situation? am I right? have you ever had feelings for this male friend? Is this the reason why you want to know more about if there relationship is doomed more so than him hanging out with you?
If you truly don't have feelings for this friend of your's let there relationship go forward on it's own and eventually he will come back around
If you DO have feelings for him this is totally another story and problem you need to deal with
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reader, person12345  +, writes (13 August 2012):
 It sounds like perhaps you want us to say that seeing each other too often is the kiss of death? When the pairing isn't right then seeing each other often will expedite the break up. But when the pairing is right and both people want to see each other that often, no I don't think it is too much. It's only too much if one person in the relationship thinks it's too much. In the beginning of the relationship especially it's easy for a pair to just want to hole up with each other and be together a lot (honeymoon phase). I'm sure he will be able to make more time for friends once that phase ends. But otherwise I really don't think 4-6 times a week is even beginning to approach excessive. Sounds pretty normal to me.
Once my boyfriend and I went on our third date we have seen each other every single day for 3.5 years (except when one is traveling).
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