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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupidCan people get back together ?I am embarrass to be writing on here about my predicament but I am driving myself insane.I went out for 2 months with a man older than me (I’m 26 he’s 41) I did not realize my guard was down and fell hopelessly in love ! we connected on every level, he even told me how compatible we were ! - He dumped me, and it was quite a friendly break up, he is going through a divorce and cannot cope, and doesn’t know if he wants another relationship, - the break up was nothing I had done.I have broken the golden rule and I did ask him back, after a few weeks. He sent me a lovely message explaining his dilemma and thinks I should date someone who can give me a relationship.I just feel completely heart broken, and don’t feel capable of looking at someone else at the moment. I have been dumped before and iv been the person to end relationships in the past, so iv been on both sides… but for the first time ever I have this strange feeling, I don’t know a Gut feeling ? or an aura feeling around me that tells me we will get back together one day. I know it sounds crazy.I am not planning to contact him as I realize people need time and space, and I don’t think it would do any good at the moment. But I wonder if once he has space ect, if I would ever pop into his mind and he would contact me again.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (31 July 2014):
 I think that you should move on. He needs his space and admitted that he can't give you want you want, a relationship. Moving on doesn't mean getting into new relationship. It means taking time for you, focus on yourself, other aspects of your life and spending time with other people that you care about. It won't be easy to let go but its something you've got to do. Good luck.
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 He might, he might not. By the time he changes his mind (if ever) you may have changed yours about him. For the sake of your own emotional health it's probably best that you treat the break-up as final and begin the process of moving on. As the saying goes, sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
You write that you can't look at anyone else - this is completely normal, and will pass. Don't feel any pressure to date again until you are ready.
Good luck and best wishes.
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