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writes: I love my boyfriend dearly, as he does me, but recently he has been sentenced to 12 months in prison. But since this has happened I want to stick by him and have been visiting him regularly but sometimes I think I don't love him anymore. I'm really confused. I don't know what to do..is there any advice you can offer me? sara
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): i have been with my boyfriend since 16 may 07 but he was remanded 2 days after,he got sentenced to 4 years do 2 years i realised i love him when he was on trial and it ws my choice to wait for him,and people are always puttin me down about him and say i shouldnt be with him but i wanna spend the rest of my life with him.is it worth it please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2007): Sara-
I have been with my boyfriend now for two years (11 months before he was locked up) and he is now looking at five more. There are many times in our relationship that I feel unloved, or that I don't love him anymore. When this happens, I simply take a break from going to visit him. This reminds me of how much I love him, and how much seeing him really fulfills my life. I plan on being there the day he is released, and there is no doubt in my mind this will happen, but I will tell you its not easy to be optimistic all the time. Prison is hard, both for the person on the inside and for the family and loved ones on the outside. The best thing you can do for your boyfriend is to support him and be there whenever he needs you. It won't be easy. There will be many nights of tears and heartache, but in the end, your reward for this will be getting to live the rest of your life with the one you love. Hang in there, 12 months isn't that long!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): my boyfriend is awaiting sentencing for burglary. my advice to you would be to keep on contacting him. Maybe next time you visit him talk discreetly about how hard you are finding it, as i think maybe you just think you are feeling this way as you are not with him as much as you used to be. he is obviously finding things hard, anyone in prison would, so at least write now and then...keep him staying strong and maybe when he gets out you can decide what to do with your relationship then and see if your feelings return once things go back to normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2005): That's quite a conundrum since he's in prison. You don't want to kick a man when he's down but in this case, you also have to think about yourself and the fact that you're already thinking that you don't love him anymore. If that's really true, then leave now before all the love is gone and all that is left is resentment. Visit him, talk about it ... tell him that while you still care for him, you also have needs and that it is hard for you that he is in prison. Maybe you guys just need a break and when he goes free, maybe you can give it another shot. In the meantime, you need to think about yourself. You deserve it.
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