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writes: Honest answers please!!! Do you think it's possible for somebody to fall back in love? My husband loves me but is not in love with me. We haven't made love in over a year. I heard his feeling in the past and always put him down sexually. Since then though we've been working on building our marriage. everything is great between us apart from the sex issue. Everytime we try to make love he doesn't go through with it because he feels uncomfortable. He says he wants to make love to me, but wants it to come by natural. He doesn't want to make love just because we're married and we're supposed to. He says if I just leave him alone about it, things will fall into place by themselves. What should I do? I really miss him. How do I help him let me in? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): Thanks all! :)
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reader, 48years  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 Do not discuss sex with him...we women talk too much sometimes...talk to your girlfriends instead...try being very kind to him...compliment his skills...let him make the first move.
Be patient. If you need to relieve your own sexual urges, masturbate ( I'm not kidding-it can help!) BUT DON'T LET HIM KNOW-IT MAY MAKE HIM FEEL EVEN MORE INADEQUATE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2008): my marrige is going the same way i love my wife so much it hurts we have had ups and downs she feels like i don,t love her but i do every thing i do i do it for her she said that she has fallen out of love with me but still loves me but i just don't understand that part how can you love someone but not be in love with them i am giveing her time but i miss her so much we have been married for 7 years i lay in bed at night crying because i miss holding her i want some much for her just to come home and she says that she does not want to have sex with me that hurts me even more i will not cheat on her i hope that there is some way that you husband can see how much you love him and please show him that do all that you can to please him but don't leave yourself out talk to him and see what both of you can do to make the marrige better and i hope he will fall back in love with you
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 My husband fell out of love with me and he couldn't get it back. I tried everything but he had just become indifferent. I think it might be a good idea with your husband to give him some space and not pressurize him with regard to sex. Be loving and supportive but don't push him. He is obviously working through his feelings. He says he still loves you and everything else is going well so I think this is just a matter of time. You do want him to want to have intimate sex with you not you just being with a machine so just give him a bit more time. Build up his self esteem in different ways as this may also help. If there is anything you can say to rid his memories of you putting him down sexually that would probably be the key. Good Luck I think this will come right in the end.
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