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writes:Hey everyone. My girldfriend of 9 months asked for space and time apart for a month.We had a great relationship for the first 6 months then some arguments and a fight happened. I apologized sincerely. We haven't spoken in 3 weeks. She contacted me three times after asking for the break to ask about me but When I randomly sent her a massive appology note, she cut my communication with her by blocking me off of Skype and whatsapp I guess to make a precedent to commit to this break for a month and no contact. Her sister said to just give her the space and break until she comes back after the month request. My girlfriend told me that she just needs the break from all the stress and things going on in her life and it would be a good chance for me to improve on the mistakes I've done. I have been needy and acting jealous and have been working to change all that. She said we are not breaking apart and if she had wanted to end the relationship then she would have said so but taking a break to her means just destressing and healing and forgetting. I really miss her and want her back so badly. Can we get back together with this time apart and break?
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reader, R1  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 if she is saying she wants to get back together after the break then that is positive. Have you thought about what went wrong in your relationship and attempted to learn from your mistakes. If there was something wrong (which she is suggesting their was) then you will have to make changes or things will deteriorate again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): Why Would you say it's the beginning of the end. My girlffriend said and kept repeating to reassure me we are not breaking apart and that this break is something positive. I'm confused yet I know if given a second chance I am infinity percent sure we can work together. Our goal is marriage and our relationship is honest. Even our families got together and my parents asked for her hand for me from her parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): Thank you. About this no contact thing, it's really killing me especially with the being blocked thing. It's really upsetting me and hurting me. I am respecting her request for space but what could the blocking mean? I'm trying to remain positive but it's painful to be left away in the dark like this. When and who should/ will initiate contact?Damn I miss her so much.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 you can if you both want it.
I'm sorry but I've never seen "a break" work. not really
I always find "a break" to be the beginning of the end....
sure you may come together again and it may work for awhile but then there will be another "break"
eventually these "breaks" are often used for seeing others without having guilt about cheating.
If I was stressed from something other than my partner.... and I needed detox time... my detox time is WITH MY PARTNER unless they are the cause of the stress....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 Sure you can if it is what you both want. You just need to use this time to learn your mistakes and not repeat them, you need to be independent even when you are in a relationship. Give her space and time with her friends. You need to trust her and allow her to breathe. Don't keep apologising this is not what she wants to hear so stop. You have said it now so don't repeat what she wants now is for things to change if she does come back to you. So work on that and hopefully you will both make it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): By the way, she asked for one month because she is travelling with her parents during this time.
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