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writes: Im not sure if this belongs on this site, but i'll try it. My 14 year old daughters mother lives in VA and is moving to Texas in a month. For the last 3 years my daughter has lived with me and done real well with school and is living a stable life, something she hadn't had when she lived with her mother. Her mother has had a turmoil of a life since she split up with me shortly before our daughter was born. She had moved her and my daughter around a lot. Moved in and out with boyfriends, has two other daughters with two other men, although the last one she is currently with and married too. Now, there are a bunch other things I could tell you about her to throw her under the bus more. Lets just say that even her parents have sided against her. But turnabout is fair play. I was a lousy boyfriend leading up to our daughters birth. I was 23 and was enjoying living at the beach. After our daughter was born, her mother and I were both lacking in our parental responsibilities by letting her parents basically raise our daughter. We overly used them because both of us were preoccupied with our own lives. I would say that for the first 6 years or so of our daughters life I could have been a much more responsible parent. So, even though i'm not perfect and I still have my issues, I grew up and took my responsibilities with my daughter very seriously. I had to move back home two states away about 8 years ago for job purposes. I brought my daughter home with me for the summers and went to see her as much as possible. Then she came to live with me and my wife. She DOES do real well here and wants to stay here. she has just visited with her mother and basically her mother bullied her saying she has to move back with her and there is nothing she or I or anyone can do about it. We have joint custody and everything I have seen is that since my daughter has lived her the amount of time she has, that makes me primary. But my ex can still has a right to come get her. My ex is pulling a power trip on me and her daughter and doesn't care about whats right for our daughter, only what she wants. I want to know what are my legal rights without going to court. Can she just come and get our 14 year old daughter out of her life against my and her daughter's wishes? or can I stop her? I need some advice.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 July 2013):
At 14 your daughter is old enough to decide where she wants to live, my advice - get a lawyer.
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