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writes:can men and women really just be friends even though they've been together in the past, my boyfriend of 10 years has quite a few girly friends who he keeps in touch with and my point is that the majority of these women have been his girlfriends and I've never met them, so how can he say there's nothing in it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): He enjoys collecting past girlies because they enhance his prowess. If he shares emotional intimacy with them he is being unfaithful in my opinion, especially if you don't know them too. Friends should be mostly mutual. He has gone to some effort to keep you appart. Perhaps you should suggest a reunion party for them all so you can meet them. Honestly though other people would be able to manage this situation so it is your choice. If the rest of the relationship is fab it is worth living with. If you are confident with your place in his life and of his feelings for you you will be happier. I would find it odd and annoying and would not be with someone like this who has an "Old Girls" club. Perhaps you should start him a newsletter!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): You just have to trust him!
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reader, dummyduckling +, writes (18 January 2008):
 well if he is mature enough to stay in a relationship for 10 years then there is a good chance that he is mature enoigh to just say no if these other girls make advances. i know im only 17 but i belive that if he has been with you for this long and remained faithfull ( im assuming he has, my bad if he wasnt ) then i think you can trust him, if you talk to him about it and he comes back with " dont you trust me?" or phrases the that affect then i'd keep my eye on him if i were you. but as ive said if he has been with you for 10 years and remained faither full there is a very slim chance of him cheating on you now. dont worry im sure you will be fine and i wish you and your boyfriend long lasting love and happiness. i hope this helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Some people insist that ex-lovers can't remain friends, others say they can.
These were people who got pretty close, but it didn't work out. There are many more aspects to a relationship than just sexual - surely friendship has got to be one of them. Should the baby be thrown out with the bath-water?
If the sex stuff is well and over, there shouldn't be any problems. If there is still hankering (from either of them) then they haven't resolved the break up properly, and should probably not get together until that's sorted out, if it can be.
Perhaps you need to ask yourself what anxiety button is being pushed within you so that you've not trust in your partner of 10 years?
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