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writes:So here's my story:I met my first love after 8 years. He was in town and he wanted to catch up. I've been dating someone for over a year now and we are going strong. Since i am over my 1st love...i thought it was ok to meet him.I met him...and i felt nothing apart from affection...none of th love or infatuation was there.My bf didn't like it much though...he gets very insecure about it...Now the other guy wants to meet up again and i'm in a dilemma...because for one, my bf doesn't really want me to meet him and two; so far i have felt nothing at all...but can memories of the past make me feel something for him again? Or should i just ignore the other guy...i don't want to mess up things with my current boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think you are right.
Thanks a lot :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 March 2011):
Well, then he's the first love. In which case, realistically the advice still stands.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's not my ex. He's a guy i used to love - he never loved me back - he was just a friend.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 March 2011):
I've never really been a person for going back to ex's, for the reasons you mentioned really.
1 - Your boyfriend is feeling insecure, and realistically most people would if their partners suddenly did this.
2 - There is a very high chance your ex still likes you, and this could make things worse.
In the end, you need to make a decision - Is your boyfriend the man you want to be with, have trust you and have love you (in which case end contact with the other guy)
- Or is the other guy worth losing your boyfriend over, even if it is just for friendship?
Personally, I would leave the ex in the past where he belongs. Living in the past in any real capacity always turns out worse in the long run. I think if you keep in contact with your ex, you'll lose your boyfriend.
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