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writes:I have an issue, my first issue actually. I'm an openly gay male (try and dress cute, carry bags, wear makeup on the occasion, very hard to miss that I'm not straight.) and I met this man who is bisexual. He's only dated women, which irronicaly is the same case for me (no boy has ever asked me out before.) I am 21 and he is 22. Now, we've been talking and 'dating' for about a week and a half and he asked me to be his boyfriend recently. I was thrilled because he is such a sweet heart, he even is okay without having sex until I'm comfortable with it!! So I of course said yes!! The stipulation however, is that he hasn't come out yet and wants to keep this relationship a secret from everyone. Now this upsets me a bit because I've never had to be in the closet and I don't want to go in now. And I don't feel afraid that I'm going to get cheated on...kind of...because he's been very respectful about that and has made it clear that he's not going to leave me for someone else.What should I do? Should I stay with him? Give him a chance? How can I try and get him to move forward with me without asking him to change? Reply to this Question
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reader, ShadowBlaze  +, writes (16 June 2010):
I'm a bisexual guy, and only come out to a few people so far, even though I really want to, so I know how he feels- be patient with him, if he's worth it then do your best to stick by him and help him through it.
Good luck, and I'm so happy you found someone to be with! I'm in love with a boy too!
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Um... if it's OBVIOUS that you are gay. And others SEE you with him. Won't they figure it out? What's he going to tell others about you? You might want to talk to him about this one point... as it sounds like you're not too keen on being shoved into the closet - per say. And I'm sure that it prove especially difficult around family and very close friends.
Other than that... congrats, take it slow, and be forgiving.
Good luck.
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