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writes:What is your opinion or experience of this relationship lasting?My friend works internationally and travels the world but his family and friends are in the UK. During his marriage break-up he is 'consoled' by a woman with whom he worked who is 15 years younger (not so much an issue), but lives in Sweden (where he was working at the time). She has two young children and a 'boring husband' who she has been with since she was 16. During the course of the past year she has now left her husband and my friend is planing to emigrate if he can get work where she lives. All this is before either of them have obtained a divorce. I feel I have lost respect for my friend, not because of his feelings for her, but because he is not giving her space to know if her first and only relationship has truly ended, after all she believes she is in love with him, but I think she is attracted to his status and adventure that his lifestyle. I guess the problem is that I also love him (and he knows it), he is nice guy and not a player, just also caught up in her attraction, age and says he has never felt such a 'connection' before. His ex never showed him much love so I can understand him falling for the first woman who showed him concern.I would like to know if anyone has felt this 'genuine' love on the rebound and the odds of it working out?Did yours work out?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 July 2008):
I don't think you can truly know what 2 people have when they are alone together. If he is feeling a connection then you have to respect that.
If you have feelings for him then it is very easy to imagine that he is doing the wrong thing because deep down you want it not to be real so you still have a chance.
Maybe this will work long term and maybe it won't. Who knows? Either way you have to let him take that chance and leave him to it.
Good Luck!! xx
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