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Can I trust this man's motives?

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Question - (6 June 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 10 June 2016)
A female Saint Lucia age 51-59, *s Determined writes:

It's been a while since I have post. I went on a few times with this guy. He tried to kiss me but I shy away. As he has a girlfriend. We held off going out for a while. We started talking again and we are going to the movies next weekend. I am in the process of building a house and ran into some difficulties with a workman so he referred someone to me. Everytime the guy comes to work on weekends he will drop him off and stay a little bit. Saturday last I had to collect some applicants which he took me for. Even though his scheduled was heavy and he had to visit the place twice. Another friend of mine said they were going to help but charged me a delivery fee, he didn't. What do you think he is up to? Is he expecting something in return or is he a genuine friend. We have know each other casually for over 10 years and started going out and calling up each other approx 2 years ago. I like him a lot and he's one of the only guys whom I think I would have sexual intercourse with. Yet at the same time I want a real relationship but I am not sure if he would be serious enough about it. In one of our conversations he spoke about friends with benefits and I said I wasn't about that. When I am with him I am happy and have to control myself from jumping on him. What advice can you give me on this?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (10 June 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntHe has a girlfriend yet you still think you would have sex with him, maybe you both deserve each other, the thing is how would you ever trust each other? Try and think about how that would make his girlfriend feel, it would be a very selfish act for you to do.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (6 June 2016):

So_Very_Confused agony aunta. he has a girlfriend

and

b. he asked about FWB...which means he does not see you as serious relationship material but only as a little something something on the side till someone he wants to be with comes along

if you sleep with him you will hurt from it emotionally in the long run, so just say NO to any intimate actions with this man

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (6 June 2016):

He has a girlfriend.

Enough said.

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