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anonymous
writes: I dated this man for a while and found out he was married. I walked away because I did not want to be in a relationship built on deceit and lies. Recently we started dating again. He told me that he divorced his wife. He tells me that he wants to build a life with me. I caught him lying about something recently and now all the doubts are resurfacing. How do I deal with this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): You might want to make a trip to the court house and make sure a divorce is on record. It's public information, so there should be no problem getting it.
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reader, raiders +, writes (13 May 2010):
Make things clear and tell him you will not tolerate his lies and make sure he is divorce.
Your having trust issues because you are aware of his lies and cheating ways, just be careful he might not cheat on you but just be careful play it on the safe side. If you feel like something is wrong than it probably is, trust your instinct.
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reader, shania +, writes (13 May 2010):
I agree with Caring Guy..he's a pathological liar,i wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot barge pole...i pity his poor wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): Many years ago I wouldn't go out with a married man. He left her and I agreed to go out with him. Later down the line he left me and went back to her. That doesn't mean that this guy will do this but is what can happen.
If he is lying about something else then it is not sounding good. Sit him down and tell him you want truth and nothing else. You walked away once you can do it again if you need to.
Do you doubts that he got divorced, was there a long enough gap for him to do so?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 May 2010):
No way. You can't be sure he divorced her. And if he cheated on her, he'll do it to you. Ditch him.
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