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writes: Hi.. Is it worth getting latex gloves for when fingering my partner's genitals and where are the best place to get them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): It's because latext feels nice tingly. So yes why not try it
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): It's not a dumb question. It's just that cultural mores say such a precaution shouldn't be taken. That's nuts in situations where the STI status of the other person is unknown and unverified.
Read this site from start to finish, if you haven't: http://www.cdc.gov/std/default.htm
Cold facts and data, and strong health education -- not guesswork based on peer pressure (including from women) -- are the absolute last line of defense against STIs. That is to say, it's the first bulwark you should construct (as an individual or parent). Outer concentric bulwarks (contraception; getting tested; giving relationships time; having committed relationships; having self-respect and respect for others; developing self-discipline; having life success and long-range goals) provide (in reverse order as given) the initial lines of defense. Should these topple and fail (peer pressure, no protection available, test results delayed, alcohol involved, passion of the moment) at the very least one would want a scintilla of accurate sexual-health education as the final crutch to lean on. The last line of defense, after everything else has been taken away, is one's knowledge and ability to assess risk.
From the CDC (an excerpt among many):
"Because the virus that causes AIDS is in the blood of infected persons, blood or other body fluids (such as bloody feces) that have blood in them could infect you. You can protect yourself by following some some simple steps. Wear gloves if you have to touch semen, vaginal fluid, cuts or sores on the person with AIDS, or blood or body fluids that may have blood in them. Wear gloves to give care to the mouth, rectum, or genitals of the person with AIDS. "
From a leading and heralded author on female foreplay, Dr. Ian Kerner (in /She Comes First/):
"If you've already stimulated her manually during foreplay and are taking appropriate precautions, you know that you should be wearing latex gloves, perhaps ones that were bought specifically for the occasion from a sex-gear catalog such as blowfish.com. They can be purchased in various colors and textures—some are lightly powdered or lubricated—and feel less 'medical' than the standard issue."
He then at length describes the importance, and use, of dental dams.
Surely, if both partners are fully tested, healthy, and monogamous, gloves are likely overkill. But belittling the notion of latex gloves as protection, in any and all situations, is unsound, ignorant and potentially dangerous.
In my opinion the question is a wise one, from a forward-thinking young man.
When a woman dumps on the spot a man who refuses to wear a condom, we rightfully consider her as having pride, wisdom, self-assurance, standards, and a concern for public health.
Here is a man who reasoned, hypothesized, showed concern for another, and dared ask what has been unexpectedly shown to be a brave question.
And here are you.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (14 May 2010):
 And can I remind all aunts and uncles, to behave and act their age...
Scratch that.. it's impossible, just try to act the age of someone older and you'll be alright.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (14 May 2010):
If you are clean enough to have sex, and your partner is clean enough to have sex, there is no need for any gloves at all. Sex is not dirty, the human body is not dirty. Wearing gloves is impersonal, slightly neurotic and you will lose the sensation of touch.
If you are afraid of human fluids, the human body or sex, you need to see a sex counsellor as soon as you can.
Start sexual activity with your partner in the shower, use your hands and your mouth. The water will reassure you that everything is clean.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 "Is it worth getting latex gloves for when fingering my partner's genitals ?"
Is it worth what? It's hard to understand why you'd want to do something like this. Do you realise this is a very unusual question? Which is why everyone here is joking around.
Having said that I recommend rubber gloves over latex ones
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2010): OMG. You guys are so funny especially q1605. I haven't laughed this much in years. Thank u.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Ummmm...What???
Bad idea on so many levels...
If my guy came at me with latex gloves...I would be totally insulted, humiliated, and concerned about his mental state!
Secondly, there are a lot of people who are alergic to latex...and you could be causing huge problems for her!
I think Q had the right idea...how long can it be before we put a man on Mars????
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Yeah Howard Hughes had that fetish.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Q, it might be a fetish thing?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 May 2010):
Get Playtex, they are so flexible you can pick up a dime.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 May 2010):
I believe you can buy those at the pharmacy. But why you'd want them for that use I don't understand? I don't think it'll be worth it...? If you wash your hands before going down to business, have your nails cut and not sharp, then everything should be fine.
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