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writes:Hello first thanks for readingme and a girl met online. i met her while she was waiting for a boy that she said loved him. first she met him, so i hung out with her for sometime. then she started to love me but i used to love somebody else. i didn't care for her and she used to tell me daily that she loves me and i used to tell her that I'm with somebody else, till the day that i broke up with the other girl. so i decided to talk to her and try to love her. well, i felt in love with her so fast. she was cute and kind but i had a problem that i never believed that she is a girl because each time i used to ask her about to put on cam she used to make an excuse! first time she said that her father wont allow her. then she said that she had problems with cams, that she hates taking videos about pics. she used to send me pics one time each week or maybe less and when i asked for more she used to say that she is using her father's phone till the day i made sure that she got a phone. well i acted with the fact that she is the girl in the pics and decided to love her no matter if she is this girl or she is a boy. after 2 months of having a great relation i discovered that she is cheating on me with one boy, that he was putting a heart on his profile pic and i was right: i contacted him. it was completely right. then i left her and all the time she used to contact me and tell me that she is sorry and that she love me and she wont do it again but each time i return to her i discover something new and leave her and then she rush to me again. the last thing i arrived for that she had 5 bf's together one who is me for a game, a boy for facebook, a boy for steam, and another boy for WoW game. here i went really mad and i stopped talking to her for like 3 months and trying to search for the truth that if she is really that girl or no. i got her IP. she told me that she lives in Italy and America and it was false she lives in America. she always tried to contact me and tell me that she loves me and she wants me back but i used to ignore her. once she say so she is going to suicides and she is went in darkness which i never believed because i already know her lies, till a day she contacted me and said:"there, i told (a boy that he loves her really and he want her really hard) the truth about everything... im done with making lies, im done with the pain.... darkness take my hand, sweep me away from this land, darkness hear my call, will you make me fall, In my hands a knife, darkness take my life..."i asked her:"what truth?"she said:"i told him that all that you said is true, im not a good person, im never honest, i dont deserve to have friends, im better off just being alone or even dead, im always lying and going deeper and deeper into my lies, that i cant stop, and its ripping me apart, im sorry but i have to be alone for awhile and not talk to anyone anymore after today till i get over everything might take days or months"i told her:she should tell her love the truth all the truth and promise him that she wont do it again and ask him forgivenessshe said me:"can you forgive me?"i said her: "yes i will forgive me if you promise me to stop it forever"she said:"i promise you"then i said:"go tell the one that loves you so much that you don't want him and tell a boy i sent her a link of a boy that she was in relation with him while she was with the other boy that loves her so much"then she told me:"okay I'll do it"here i asked the boy that really loves her and he told me yes she did that and he said me you stole her from me againafter 1 dayi received a msg from her that she is grounded i asked her why she said that she was trying to cut her wrist i asked her why she said she is very sad and depressed and she thinks that i don't trust her i told her yes i don't trust you but it can be fixedthen i went to her profile and checked the boy i saw that he still putting her as his love so i told her that you never change then argued with her. then i told the other boy that i don't care about her anymore you can take her back, the he told me that he was flirting with her all the night yesterday ( which it was wrong he lied) and she said that she talked to him. i checked and saw that she is right she talked to him..the questions that are rolling in my brain do you think she is really the girl in the pics? do you think she really love me and she really changed ? should i trust her again ? please help just put anything in your brain here that might help me. don't be strict with the question.thank you for reading; it's really appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): I personally dont think shes the girl in the pic r else she wouldnt have any prob getting on the cam to prove to u that she is who she says she is
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reader, kaykay1989  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 I don't think she is the girl in the pics. Shes either self conscious and posted another pic or shes just given you another pic. Other wise she would go on cam to prove that she is who she says she is.
I don't mean to be harsh but i think you should run a 100 miles in the other direction she clearly can't stop lying block her delete her she just craves all the attention and shes getting it. I don't think she can change and shes defnately proved that. If you stay with her your only going to have stress and heartache.
If shes a boy/man its not easy to tell but I don't think a boy/man could be bothered with the effort of begging your forgiveness after each time you have dumped her and constantly wanting to play this silly game. xoxoxoxo
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