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writes: I am a 29 year old female who has been with the same great guy for 7yrs. A few months ago his ex from 8yrs ago (who cheated on him) tried to contact us Via My Space, just to say hi! I erased her and blocked her account. I did not tell him about it. I figure let sleeping dogs sleep!The second part of the story is...This other girl whom is an "ex" to my mans friend, whom I have been friends with for about a year now keeps bringing my mans "ex" up in conversation...and what happened with my man and his "ex" 8yrs ago!!! Now today I see that she has befriended the "ex" on My space. Now I feel as though I can't trust her! I feel as though she might be trying to play games. Any thoughts? Sorry if this is Confusing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHere is an update.
We few cocktails and I got up the guts to tell him.
I told him about how our female friend has been corrisponding
with his "ex." Also that they are even hanging out at events together. I told him that I no longer trust this female friend. I also asked him if his "ex" was the type that liked to "stir things up?" He was a bit shocked. He said yes, that she is a "B" and a user. He said that he is very sorry to hear this and that I have NOTHING to worry about. We are going to slowly rid our relationship of this female friend. The next problem is that her current BF has been a long term friend of ours. We are going to have to stop hanging around him too because they are always together!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks!
Here is my plan. I will slowly start to distance myself
from that "friend" that keeps bringing up the "ex."
My "gut" instinct tells me that she is up to no good.
This will be very hard for me. I have very few friends
Also, my "gut" tells me not to bring up the "ex" contacting us through Myspace. I want to let sleeping dogs sleep on this one. If the word gets around, I will just act like I don't know anything. After all, people send "booty calls"
all the time such as, "I am new, look at my webcam."
If I do tell him I can't see that anything good will come of it.
So this is my plan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2006): You know, u just answered your own question twice, and to reconfirm yourself, "No, you cannot trust her." We can't tell u whether you should or not. This is a personal gut feeling.
Fin.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (23 June 2006):
 I suggest that you confront the girl about it, ask why all of a sudden shes mentioning this ex... Does she know something you dont ? Or is she just merely jealous of your relationship with your man.. you would be surprised what some people are like and the lenghts they go to. Ask her outright why, what have you got to lose ? Shes probably trying to get a reaction out of you and maybe even sow a seed of doubt in your head over your relationship with your man, lets see.. so far its working!! Tell her straight.. ask her outright, she probably is just jealous!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question#1 We share this Myspace account.So no, it is not snooping.Yes, I trust him.So what about this other girl I have been friends withfor about a year now!??! Lately, she keeps bringing the "ex" up in conversation. The "ex" and her were never friends before! Now she has added her as a myspace friend! I also know that they have been talking at different events around town. I feel maybe she is trying to "rock the boat?!?!"
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (23 June 2006):
Nothing wrong in a blast from the past, she is probably just making waves and putting out feelers to people she knows. If you have trust issues you should speak to your boyfriend about this. You have been together 7 years, doesnt that count for anything ? Cyberworld is full of people trying to add people to there space and the contact lists etc.. my man gets a few, people that havent got that many friends tend to do it to boost the numbers up lol... Take a chill pill about it... Let him decide, and stop snooping, you are more likely to loose out if you get caught deleting this as he will feel he cant trust you. If you have an issue about the recent conversations around this ex, then talk to your man about it, but be careful as you run the risk of him thinking that you dont trust him and someone that feels that gets very very upset!
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2006): If you're intercepting your boyfriend's correspondance, can he trust you? So far this girl has done nothing to make me suspicious of her motives. It's been 8 years, that's long enough for things to have cooled off. Befriending someone on MySpace is about as intimate as forwarding an internet joke nowadays. Don't sweat this, and let your boyfriend make his own decisions.
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