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writes: I am having a very difficult time deciding what to do about a certain issue I am having. My husband's old ex gf from high school continues to call him every couple of months or so just to check in on him. Early on in our relationship, I was very uncomfortable with this, and my husband new it, but didn't do anything about it. I finally had to express everything to him and about 6 months ago, he realized that he was being disrespectful and wasn't putting me first. So he called his ex gf and told her to stop calling. However, I ended up telling him to call her back b/c I wanted to be the better person. I know I gave him mixed messages after doing this but from what he tells me and from having a brief conversation with her once she seems like a good person...however, I don't know her and nor does my husband know her since it's been almost 6 years since he's been with her. He tells me that he can see that she is the same good person that he knew, and I am trying to see it his way and let things go, but I don't know that I can trust her and am wondering if I should just allow the friendship to continue or if I will continue to be uncomfortable b/c I have allowed this to happen. Please help me decide if what I am doing is right. It's been 2 years now since we've been married, and this has been the main reason we fight about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Hi, I am having the same issue. I wrote the ex and waiting on her response. Thay communicate via email she mainly contacts him. We have been together for six years and she is still in his life. The EX is an Ex for a reason meaning to me it was wrong "X".
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reader, Tim +, writes (22 November 2005):
 Is she prettier than u his ex g/f? does he call her daily, check his phone bills and ur telephone for any stranger number call and duration or hire a private investigator to find out if he likes and loves her or not at least for ur feeling and ur marriage don't let her ruine ur marriage for u do a full investigation first after u were convinced ur man is urs and he loves u not her let it be the way he feels comfortable coz he loves u not her. and let her ex loves him till end of her life ur husband might have been her first love and she can't forget him so easily till she find someone else who loves her at least then she will leave u alone and ur husband. some ex cause alot more than u can imagine u r so lucky his ex is a nice person. try to ignore and dont fight with ur lovely husband the more u get on his nerves and fight with him the more u change his love for urself men don't like girls who fight with them all the time, they wanna be respected and loved and not fought or hated.
Good luck
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