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writes:Hey, I'd love some advice from guys and girls about whether I am getting too wet to pleasure my guy during sexual intercourse. We've been together 7 months and everything is great :) He's the most well-endowed guy I've ever been with, and when we first had sex, it kinda hurt a little, but as time has gone by, it has started feeling great. In fact, so great that I think I may be getting too wet for him :(Basically, a few times we've had sex (initiated by him), he's been hard, but lost his erection during sex so we stop :( When he withdraws, he's sticky from my juices but not from his own :( I'm wondering if there is not enough friction for him?We've kinda talked about it, and he's said he sometimes worries he is not pleasing me (even though I make encouraging sounds!) and says that what gets him hard is knowing he's turning me on. He doesn't have any other particular worries that could be affecting his libido, and everything else in our relationship is great. We've carried on having sex since that conversation, but no change :( I don't want to keep talking to him about it as I don't want to make it into a big issue, but I'd love for him to orgasm when we have sex :(I know he watches pretty tame porn every week, and he has early morning erections when he wakes up, so I'm pretty sure everything is in working order for him.So I'm left thinking it must be something to do with me... I've asked him if I could concentrate on pleasuring him (not necessarily ending in sexual intercourse, I was thinking kissing/oral sex for him) but he's not keen as he says what turns him on is seeing me turned on.I am in pretty good shape (I go to dance classes 3 times per week), we are affectionate during the day, I dress nicely for him...so I'm wondering what to do. Is there any way to stop myself getting so wet for him? What else should I do?Thanks :)
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reader, juliewar  +, writes (29 July 2014):
I am a 49yr old who has had this problem for years, never everybody saying my man likes it, he finds it sexy ect. The problem is i get to wet to feel him and he cant feel me. The only solution i have come across is to take a couple of Benedryl over the counter pills at least 20mins befor you have sex. I know its not always planned but thats all that there is at the moment. It dries mucus so you dont ge AS wet. Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): IM the same, I get soaking wet, because im tuned into my bodies wants. you wont be able t stop that. just dry it up a few times throughout your love making. As for turning him on, why not take charge? be the teacher and he the naughty headmaster :) tell him his been a very naughty naughty master and needs to be punished, role play is fun
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): the wetter the better. try different positions and try asking him what positions he likes combned with what you like and mix it up a little. don't let it bother you
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (24 May 2011):
 apparently men love it the wetter the better, to create more friction make sure you do your pelvic floor exercises everyday (google 'kegal exercise' for advice on this) make sure you initiate sex sometimes, he may feel insecure about how truly you actually want it, experiment with different positions. talk about sex and discuss this problem but be careful not to make an issue of it - if you are intimate enough with each other to have sex you should be intimate enough to be able to talk about it? maybe the porn use is affecting him. i think some men can get hooked on masturbating with porn so they are not as horny by the time they see you. see if a w**k ban helps, just to get him on the right track
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): it is very very exciting when a girl gets very wet. we take it as a sign we are doing things right.You don't need to do anything to stop that.
your bf is very luck to have you. I wish I was in his place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011):
I don't think it is that you are too wet. I think you are not a very active lover or at least as active as he would like. You say you enjoy it very much, but other than making noises are you actively engaging him in sex? I am not saying you do this, but if you lie there like a cold fish that may not excite him. Try to take a more active role in sex.
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reader, j321  +, writes (23 May 2011):
I think the wetter it is the better it feels and it bettter to get an orgasm. You say he watches porn, hmm maybe he is ejaculating before he has sex with you and the need to have an orgasm is no longer there. Some guys if they ejaculate will not do so again for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): dont worry their is nothing wrong with you. This problem is all with your partener. He says that seeing you getting turn on that does it for him. My point is his porn watching is tanting his view on how women react during sex. Just keep telling him how well he is doing. Hopefully this will reduce performance anxiety
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