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writes:when i was 21 i had an abortion i had it want my choice my bf wanted me to have the abortion even though it was a planned prenancy anyways he flipped on me the 2nd abortion was with this guy i loved and i though that he was different than the other guy but instead he turned out to be worst he said having a baby out of wedlock is wrong and he kept after me about taking it out and now im trying to have a baby and i know that i dont deserve a baby that im the last person to have a baby you what it just hurts so much right now that im typing this because it seems to me that bad luck follows me well bad men anyways i wanna know if i can still have a baby after 2abortions
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): hey girlie, all i can say is wow! i honestly thought i was the only one. i also had 2 abortions and feel like i cannot get pregnant. I had an early terminatin at 15 and then a 2 day procedure at 18, then i was hooked on drugs and so was my boyfriend, he was very abusive and financially we were not ready. at the time i could only think about all the things i wasnt able to provide my child, i would never want my child to grow up the way i had too. But nw iam 20,married and great but all my husband wants is a child and weve been trying for awhile and i havent gotten pregnant. it has been well over a year but i live with the guilt every day! i cry all the time and cant watch movies like "juno" or "knocked up" because of shame. so like you i want to get pregnant but i feel like i cant hopefully i will, the only advice i can give is that may we all learn from our experiances and alot of getting pregnant is mental so if you think positively thne that will better your chances. GOOD LUCK with everything and may god forgive and bless us
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reader, Makenna  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Yes it is possible to have more babies after having an abortion. However you must be 200% certain it is what you want. I had 2 miscarriages not abortions and still went on to have babies (7 altogether) so please do not give up hope - make sure you are ready to be mommy full time. Hope this helps you. You have to believe bad luck does not follow you around luck is what you make it whether good/bad, it's all about choosing the right path ~ sometimes we don't always take the right path and can make mistakes but in the end you WILL know when the time is right. *hugs* Makenna
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Like ladycharm said, unless you had complications then there is no reason why you won't become pregnant again.
Also, you have as much right to a baby as any one else. Just because you chose to go through two abortions doesn't change that.
Bad luck does not follow you, you've just made mistakes in your past about the kind of guys you ended up in a relationship with; most people make these kind of mistakes, it's part of live and it's about learning from them. Some people sadly carry on making them - but that has nothing to do with bad luck, it is down to them never really learning from where they went wrong.
The past is the past; look to the future, learn from any mistakes you have made and you will have a fantastic life ahead of you, and you will be a superb mum, I'm sure. You just need to let the past go and look forward to everything that you have ahead of you.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Sorry to say this, but why listen to a couple of nasty jerks who want to play God with your body? Having abortions is not like having a cold and going to the doctors to help to get rid of it. If you wanted these babies then you should have fought your corner and got rid of these so called men instead.
Next time you have a relationship take contraception, sorry but I think abortions should only be neccessary if you was raped by someone and not because you fall out with a boyfriend. Children are beautiful gifts, not an inconvenience, it makes me mad when women foolishly get themselves pregnant and then terminate the pregnancy because they cannot face up to responsiblities of a child.
If you are not 110% sure of having a child USE PROTECTION!!!! ITS NOT ROCKET SCIENCE.
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reader, ladycharm +, writes (27 May 2008):
 it is possible for you to get pregnent again as long as there was no problems with your last two abortions please dont blame yourself you deserve this as much as anyone but the anser to your question is thosands of woman get abortions every year and they all can have babies after theres no reason why you can unless theres a medical reason if your really worried go and see your doctor good luck
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