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*izzy222
writes:Dear CupidI've been apart from my ex girlfriend now for 1 and a half years and we've remained good friends and love each other. I guess we've been in a state of limbo. We were together for over 2 years and we had a good loving relationship. Partly the reason we split was because of my cannabis addiction and because i wasn't getting anywhere in life, so life wasn't progressing between us. She was hopefull early this year that things would work out and has waited for me to sort myself out for some time. I never really new this until we wrote each other letters about how we felt. Whenever we met we never really talked about us, as I thought maybe she doesn't want to hear about it and so it got swept under the carpet. Things have got better for me now and i've beaten my addiction and landed myself a decent job but very recently she has been seeing someone else, which she says isn't serious. I've told her how much I want her back now that my conscience is clear and Im bettering myself. I've told her how much I love her and want to make things work again. I know she loves me but she's doesn't want things to revert back to how they were.We met recently to talk about us but there was no conclusion. She said she couldn't give me a definate answer. I feel like I've done all I can to convince her that things will work but she says she needs more time. I dont want to push her in a corner but it's really hurting me to wait and im worried things will develop with her new partner. Is there anything more I can do or say to ensure her that things will work out?
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (20 March 2007):
 Bide your time. Just get on with your own life. She knows how much you want her back that is'nt the issue. If she sees how happy you and how well your doing she will start to see what she is missing. Don't bombard her with calls and texts, this will only push her away. I know this coz I have made the same mistake and now I am paying the price. Call her by all means but just talk about the little things in your life rather than make the conversation a huge debate. Hopefully she will see what she had.
Goodluck!
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reader, ANOYMOUS1  +, writes (19 March 2007):
keep bettering yourself and distance yourself from her. she knows she has you right now. maybe if played hard to get or showed her your own personal strenght which you have this may turn her around to you. just give yourself a little distance and if she starts to comeback then you have the upper hand. let me know how it turns out.
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