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writes:I wrote in yesterday with my first question here and I appreciated the answers.http://www.dearcupid.org/question/yeah-i-screwed-up-i-gave-her-a.htmlSo I'm back on talking terms again with this girl that I really like only she has told me she doesn't like me in that way.However, I do think she has feelings for me, only she quickly buried them when I came on so strong.I was really stupid and started talking about marriage in a joking way, but that's something I shouldn't joke about two months after knowing her.But I feel I have such a strong connection to her.Anyway, my question is, after showing such desperation for her, which I'm sure turned her off, is it possible to re-ignite those feelings she might have had for me if I suddenly play it cool with her?In other words, just be her friend and respect her, but not fawn over her like I was before. Reply to this Question
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reader, Philosophyzer +, writes (29 June 2010):
 I really hate to tell you this, but I don't think she likes ya in the way you are hoping. She keeps giving you the red light. Some people take some warming up, but it's been four months, right? Look, as I like to say: Don't shut the door, but keep it cracked open for another day. I would lay low and lets see if she misses your friendship. Be casual and don't contact her too much. I would put a bit of distance between you two. Let things cool off. In some time, perhaps try the friendship again. If something is going to happen, it will, but just remember, "A watched pot never boils!" So, chill out and play it smooth. Let nature take its course and don't spoil a great friendship.However, you need to prepare yourself for the fact that she really means no, which might very well be the case. Stay on alert for other great ladies, although your heart is swooning for her.Best of luck!
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