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writes: hi, , i am 28 attracted towards my cousin sister ,shweta ,she is 33 yearrs old and married.she is very nice to me.i dont know how to approach her?,once i met her last month after gap of 1 yearrs then i touched her feet ,but she hugged me from front?what does it mean?can i go forward,in young days when she was 19 and i was 14 we had sex before marriage,but not after that time.can i approach now?she has a nice figure,and she lives with her husband and one son,can i hug her from front when i meet her next time?will she accept or not?
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reader, steph007  +, writes (23 December 2010):
The best would be if you could discuss this question with her husband. If it was not possible then ask her straightly. I am sure, she will give you the right answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): Do you resent that when she was a teenager, and you were a child (14 is under the legal age of consent) that you had sex? When that happened did you initiate it, or did she? Was it consentual sex back then, or was one of the parties coerced into sex back then? Were you in a relationship with her, or did the sex just ''happen'' back then?
If you need an apology from her for the previous sex then ask her for the apology.
If she is the one who deserves an apology for that sex so many years ago, then give that apology willingly.
If you have a view that she will welcome your approach I think you are mistaken.
Can you respect that you may upset her family and your family and embarass her, if you execute your plan?
If you did have a wife and child would you be offended if a man tried to impose himself on your wife with an impolite far too intimate hug?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): I keep seeing posts like this and i really don't understand what goes through peoples heads when they ask about this. I don't you your customs in your country but whatever they are, don't you think it's just plain wrong to even think about having sex with a blood relative?
Even if she wasn't your cousin, she is married and you aren't respecting that. She also has a child, think about that. You need to get this silly and, in my opinion, wrong idea or fantasy out of your head and come back to reality.
Forget about this because it's just wrong on all levels. Go and find a girl who isn't married with and child and who isn't related to you. You are risking ruining her marriage and childs life because of your own selfish desires.
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reader, BadAsh6705  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Don't do it!
1. She is your blood relative. What if you ended up accidentally getting her pregnant? There are many risks. What if your family found out? Yes, you did it before when you were young and didn't really know any better, but it seems maybe you are attracted to her because it is "forbidden?"
2. She is married!! What you are considering is risking so much damage and pain for her family.
I'm sure there are other women out there! Think of how your actions could affect others, don't be selfish.
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