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Can I get this relationship back on track? Can I change his mind?

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Question - (31 January 2012) 1 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

sun won't shine, moon won't glow.

Would you ever take back a cheating ex?

Would you ever take back someone who hit you? Someone who slept with you even though they had a gf/bf? Even if you were the one who cheated first?

I had this ex. Our relationship was very confusing from the beginning. We were exclusive, but not exactly. We never had a clear definition of our relationship. We simply spent time together.

I cheated on him once. Or twice. But, I don't know if this makes sense...I cheated but I just wanted him. I went back to him. I woke up in his arms. I just wanted to see him smile. He never knew I cheated.

One day, he just quit talking to me, for two weeks. Then i finally said something about it, and he started talking to me again. And we got back to where we left off.

Then I felt it coming again a month later. And he just ignored me again. This time though, I went out to get my mind off of him, and found him cheating with another girl. Like ten feet away from me. I left him this time.

A month after this, he started contacting me asking me if we could ever come back from that. I wanted to talk to him. But at this time, I had a bf.

Then one night, I was with friends and had a little too much. I ended up at his place, but the thing I was so out of it, I don't remember much.

It was dramatic to say the last. And I hit him. I can't look at him without hating him for what he did to me, but I just want him to love me.

I asked him if we could ever return from that.

He said that after that night, and the fact that I have another guy, which I don't anymore, and because we're on different pages, we should just leave it at that.

I'm trying to move on, but it's like I was just fine because I wasn't near him. Now he's like three miles away and theres a giant probability that I will see him again. I really want to work it out with him. Our whole relationship was screwed up but I've been in worse and I want this to work with him. I miss being with him. I can't connect with anyone like I did with him. I can't send him a text pic of a funny sign or joke with him using Squidbillies references.

Can I redeem this relationship? Can I change his mind? I've done it before...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012):

You've both cheated, and honestly this relationship sounds like a real mess even before the blowup. It sure sounds like the best situation is to move on. Just let him go as he wishes.

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